Lost confidence after being left for a much younger women

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Morning all,

I am just looking for a little support. Single mum of two here (primary age). We split two years ago now after ex partner had an affair with a women in her early 20s who lives abroad. She still lives abroad and my anxiety peaks everytime I know she’s coming to the uk and is around the children (all of maybe 10 days a year). Hence this post. Ex spends a ridiculous amount of time out of the country which is fine by me.

I lost all my confidence after the affairs and 15 years of controlling behaviour. I am late 30s, I am slim and have an active job but I just feel rubbish about myself and I don’t know how to get out of the funk I’m in. Any advice greatly welcome.

I think it is because you are not over the betrayal and hurt. My suggestion is counselling and focusing on what makes you feel good about yourself. 💐

I have done so much counselling. I have a job great friends I’m happy in general.

I always say get listening to stuff you always loved, get out for walks, go visit cool places like galleries, meet with friends, do really fun stuff with the kids, just fill your life up with happiness. You don’t need to worry about men or relationships for a while, it’s only been two years so understandably it will be all about the kids but just remember to fit in you time, longer showers, hair cuts, sleep!

No one stays young forever. Your ex sounds like an idiot. It’s not you.