Nicest day of the year and my teenager hasn’t left the house all day……

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Why do they do this?! It’s been such lovely weather today and DS14 has spent it inside.

Anyone else care to join in my despair?! 😁

Why force someone to do something they don't want to do ?!!
Just because it "should" be done.

Did you go out yesterday? Did you suggest anything to do together outside?

Vitamin D is very important and teenagers and older adults are often low in it.

Mine take vitamins supplements for this reason but I wish they would go out more in daylight and make their own!

At least when we were teenagers you had to leave the house to go and see who was 'out' to hang with and then you would go and hang around someones house. We did go for walks as lived a village and my friends had horses so would spend time outside. Nowadays they can communicate in a million different ways from thier bedrooom so no need for face to face time with friends

I think you are right - it is now possible to pursue relationships with friends without ever setting foot out of the door.

Gosh when I was a teenager I was always out and about when it was hot! Surely this isn't the norm now?

They have a whole lifetime of warm sunny days ahead of them. It’s no big deal to them. Or at all, really.

Because not everyone gets excited for a sunny day. There will be others. We don’t all need to run outside to get burned. Especially teens. Don’t push your expectations onto others. Enjoy the sunshine in your own way.

I hated the heat as a teenager and stayed inside. I’m not that keen on the heat now. I’m very fair skinned and burn within 20 minutes, which is totally miserable. I actually feel a sense of relief when it’s a grey, cloudy day as there’s no expectation to go out. We’re all different. I wouldn’t nag or worry about anyone wanting to stay inside.

Same ! And I think this is why I am not so bothered by the sun now , everyone obsesses over it. …. Ooo sun is shining must be out the house , why .

My 11 year old isn’t a huge fan of overly warm weather. It’s not warm where we are just now (Scotland) but when it is warm she much prefers to keep cool indoors. I consider it quite sensible of her. She’ll come outdoors for short periods which is actually how we are supposed to treat the sun when it’s that strong. What she does like is the evenings when the day has been warm. She and her friends like playing out 7-9pm in summer

Sadly too normal now with so much fun screen and slob time available at home, also lack of motivation. At that age, before modern technology, I and my friends were desperate to get out of the house, see each other, explore etc.

What, staring at a screen 🙄

I was always out whatever the weather … wanted to see friends, now it just messaging on a phone.

My teen & preteen are the opposite and are outside ALL the time - I wouldn’t mind them wanting to be inside doing something quiet instead of playing elaborate wrestling games on the trampoline, the endless bloody rugby in the garden, or pestering to be taken to the beach (we’re close but it’s a drive rather than a bike distance especially with their surfboards).

My nieces are the same age as my boys and won’t leave the house voluntarily, so maybe they are one way or the other. I love that mine aren’t on screens really at all in the spring / summer, but it’s wearing at times, especially the younger one who can’t seem to amuse himself so is lost if his brother isn’t there to direct the playing!

It's different times though. I was a teenager back in the 80s (😲) and we used to go from house to house to see each other - but if SM had been around then we'd have done exactly as teenagers are doing now. It's the same among adults - we don't socialise in the same way, we spend far more time in front of screens. It's endemic, sadly.

Its very different times

Kids aren't out now in the same way. In the good old days we'd be out together, but now the other kids are inside too.

So unless you happen to synchronise with their friends parents, them being out for a morning isn't likely to match up.

Some kids that are sporty go out, but if kids want to socialise it's 90% indoors.

And to be honest the groups of teens in lots of towns who are out, aren't really what you'd hope for

Edit: realised that sounded like i was disagreeing with you, I'm very much agreeing with you!

Agree with all you've said there @Artimouse It's such a shame, and really valuable life skills are being lost along the way as a result.

Did you have something fun planned that they refused to do? Or did you just expect then to get up and wander?

I offered mine McDonald's.... The trick being that I don't drive and the route to McDonald's means taking a nice leisurely stroll through the park, lol... It worked and she actually got some fresh air.

Also sometimes I tell them I desperately need something from the shop and send them into town for it.... I may or may not actually need said item🤣🤣🤣