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How can I stop ex harassing me through court?

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Prickexdidntshow · 04/04/2026 20:04

I think ex is using court to harass me.

Long story about neglect and emotional abuse. Social services were involved. I paused contact.

Started contact during the day as per courts request, and he was emotionally abusing the kids again, so they stopped wanting to go.

Ex has then told the court I'm going to move away and I ended up getting a writ issued to me by sheriffs officers. I wasn't. Said a whole bunch of untrue things about me to court, including that he's terrified of me. Uses this 'fear' he has to ask the court for really disruptive and inconvenient things, and often get issued them. Said things about my past that are just blatant lies, some of it is stuff he's done and he's saying it's me that did it.

Then when contact was due to go ahead he just didn't show up.

What can I do about this, we are back again next month and it's just exhausting honestly. I'm expected to be perfect and facilitate everything, and he just doesn't bother his arse. I have to disrupt these poor kids, one is disabled as well, for him to just decide not to show, after I've spent ages mentally preparing them for a visit they don't even want.

I have massive responsibilities outside of all of this that are hard to keep juggling around him missing contact or insisting on a 2 hour window for calls, to call 1 minute before the deadline etc.

At what point will the court say enough is enough (oh you'll all be happy to know that he gets legal aid for all of this dicking about as well which is why hes doing it, its free and he gets to upset me and the kids)

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IggyPopsPlasticTrousers · 04/04/2026 20:06

No advice - except to say he’s a bullying shit and you have my sympathy.

stand your ground if you can; I’m sure his lies will catch up with him in the end!

YerMotherWasAHamster · 04/04/2026 20:07

You need a lawyer to represent you. They can help you argue he is abusing court to harass you. Also point out he makes all these demands then doesnt bother showing up, which shows his true motivations

Prickexdidntshow · 04/04/2026 20:12

I wish I could get representation, but it's been impossible so I'm representing myself.

It's fine because I know I'm right and I have backup from other professionals my kids see regularly.

It just seems the court put his right to contact over my kids right to be safe, and my right to peace.

I've already corrected his lies in court, but i have to word things so carefully so I don't sound accusatory, I just want to say he's a bloody prick and he doesn't give a shit about our kids. He can make up any old bollocks he likes though apparently and doesn't have to be careful at all.

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