How much time do you spend alone?

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I’m off work for 2 weeks. My dh is still working and my dc are teenagers with their own social lives going on.

I’ve spent the last 3 days out and about with just my dogs for company.

It’s been really lovely! But also made me realise that the only people usually I spend my time with are dh and dc…. Highlighted more so because my youngest dc is 12, so this is the first year she’s become more independent with friends and less reliant on me.

I have friends, but I think I’ve come to realise that I prefer my own company and it doesn’t ever occur to me to contact people and make plans.

I see posts on SM of ‘catch ups’ and ‘lunch with friends’ etc. But I’m not envious, I’m actually quite enjoying it!

This week I’ve sat in cafes and mooched about in shops on my own, and walked the dogs for hours and it’s been lovely!

Yeah, totally agree. I am lucky enough to have two living rooms in my house and I spend quite a bit of time in 'mine'. Children are late teens, have their own lives. We get together for meals but mainly do our own thing. I love having my own space. Like you, I go on days out alone and have lovely times.

I also enjoy good company from time to time!

In a week?

Because I'm sad and have nothing better to do I worked it out

So minus the 18 hours I work, and minus the 48 hours I spend with the bf at the weekend I estimate I spend 102 hours a week alone.

Just me.

And my head.

In my shitty little room, in my HMO.

That's....depressing 😳😭 (though to be fair maybe if you detract 8 hours sleep a night... haha... that's okay really 38 waking hours alone?!)

I spend loads of time on my own. I do work but probably only interact with people outside my immediate family for about 6hrs a week. Other than that, I see the adult dc each day but that might only be for a few minutes. I see DH on a daily basis obviously but we don’t spend much time face-to-face conversing - we’ll be gardening, watching telly, pursuing our own hobbies at home. I avoid my in-laws as much as possible, and speak or message with my sister 1/2 times a week (there’s a few issues there).
I don’t mind so much. I’m actually looking forward to next week as I’ll be without a car and stuck indoors on my own (live very rurally).
My theme song is definitely ‘Me Myself I’ by Joan Armatrading.

I see a relative twice a week and I also do online tutoring. Apart from that I am quite happy on my own - single and childfree. Ive always been very comfortable with my own company and able to amuse myself. Privacy is very important to me.

The closest thing I get to alone time is my drive to work. Or using the bathroom. Outside of that I’m literally never alone 🤣

I’m struggling to think of the last time.

I often think that spending time alone is enjoyed when it’s an option. It’s when it’s not optional that it feels oppressive. Outside of work is spend 90a% of my time alone (well with my dog). Adult kids live at home but do their own thing, I work shifts so it’s more passing ships than actual time spent together. See elderly parents to run errands but aside from that it’s just me. Most of the time I’m fine with it but occasionally I wish I had friends (abusive previous relationship isolated me from them and I haven’t managed to make any new ones). At those times I go to the gym because it feels less lonely as you see the same faces and might have a brief interaction that can pass as socialising.

I live on my own and probably go to the office once a week and on top of that I must spend 10 hours max with friends/family and at gym classes/hobbies. I am looking for a job with mandated office days though as it’s not healthy for me to be in on my own all day every day!

I do very much enjoy a couple of days on my own pottering in the house, organising, popping to the shops etc - that’s definitely how I recharge.

Alone??
20mins, twice a day driving to/from work.

Im going to get 3 whole days where after work I'll be on my own til the next morning. I cannot wait. It will be years since I last spent that amount of time without the kids around.

Hardly any and I absolutely crave it. My husband was abroad all of last week so I had a bit of time alone during the day. He was lonesome, I pretend I was.

Spend loads of time alone. It’s what I prefer. Dh and ds2 live here but we do our own things. We wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m very solitary

Loads- by choice. People are hard work (including me- but I can cope with my own foibles better than I can cope with other people’s). Much of my alone time is spent with my dog so I’m not completely alone! He’s great company. He doesn’t talk or ask questions and he has no autonomy so I always get to decide where we’re going to hang out and he just goes along with it.

Hardly any because of some major life changes in the last six months. I’ve realised that I go a bit doolally when I don’t get a chance to hear myself think.

It's funny how I'm wondering if the dog counts and others are going ' oh, I'm always alone.....except for husband and kids!'😆
Other then working 2 nights a week I'm alone the rest of the week. A friend might phone once a week and I say hello to the odd delivery person but that's it. I like being alone though.

I only work 2.5 days, generally DH works at the office for 1.5 of my days off so I get lots of lovely peace!

As much as possible! I live with my husband, see friends now and then (usually one at a time, not big groups) and I also volunteer.
But I definitely need the headspace of being alone, if not every day, certainly several times a week. My husband is usually out of the house (hobbies) for 8 hours every Sunday, so this is brilliant as I can just have the time to myself.
I also like a solo trip away now and again, or even just an hour in a coffee shop with a book. Frankly, I just don't understand those people who seem to need company all the time.

I'm a sahm and my youngest is in pt preschool, and I spend about 22 hours alone in a week. I go for walks, visit exhibitions, do food prep and batch cooking and do a couple of classes. I also have alone time when everyone else has gone to bed, though it's not properly alone as other people are there, just not awake and in other rooms!

I enjoy my own company and don't feel the need to catch up with people all the time. Even when I'm out with my dcs, I'm happy spending time with them and don't bother meeting up with other mums and kids. I've never related to the need for "adult time" or needing to go to work for an adult conversation. So I guess I have the right temperament for a sahm, because those are reasons people say they couldn't ever be one.

Nowhere near enough! There’s always someone knocking on the door or I’m dropping a birthday card/presenr/something off somewhere. I absolutely feel so much better when I have time to myself, I love my own company and there’s nothing better than either sitting in silence, watching something I’m excited about or doing something. I am never bored!

I had one night to myself in 5 years and that was a sat night last month when my dd went to a sleepover! I had such a lovely night of food and films lined up, felt so happy! Ended up having to put all the lights off and sit in silence in my bedroom because my ex turned up! I was so hacked off!

I love my dd and dog so much but I also love time alone.