Been with my boyfriend for a couple of years, things are generally really good between us, we got together whilst both recovering from previous relationships where our previous partners had been unfaithful.
I work in a business I've worked in since it was a start up, and I went into the partnership a few years ago. I work with someone who I've got on so well with the whole time, and he's always been really supportive of me developing my career there. A few years ago I thought I had feelings for him, but he was in a different relationship, and he never seemed to stay with his partners very long which made me worry I'd end up hurt, and then I met my current partner so I've put all my efforts into getting over any feelings I had for my colleague. Things with my partner are good, he's kind, attentive, and wants a future with children. I know I love him, but I'm not sure about children, and he gets jealous sometimes of the time I have to spend with my business partner working on the business. I think he would like to marry, well, in fact I'm fairly sure he's going to propose at some point this year, and I'm not sure if I'd be leading him on if I said yes, as I can't be sure I want children, it wouldn't work with my job - I have to work shifts which can be long, and sometimes I travel. I love my job, and I can't see myself wanting to change to something more family friendly. His job is actually even less family friendly (police), and he's the higher earner.
Anyway, on top of all this, I was in the office with my business partner the other day and out of nowhere he told me not to stay with my boyfriend if I wasn't sure and that he was in love with me and would marry me if he ever got the chance. I literally don't know what to do with this information, I've spent so long getting over my feelings for him, and I have a good, stable relationship with my current partner, but if I'm honest, if he proposes I don't know I'd say yes for sure.
Should I tell my business partner that I had thought about an 'us' previously? Is that infidelity - should I plan on finishing with my current partner before I do that? But I don't know if I want to lose him either, I'm heading for my late 30s and want some stability.
Has anyone else ever been in this position, what would you do? There's also the issue of the business, although it's quite successful, but I now don't know what the future holds for it regardless of what happens!