I suspect I'm AuDHD so if the following doesn't apply then just scroll on by.
The organised mum method really helped me to get over the all or nothing approach. I don't necessarily use it for the housework, but doing a little here and there is infinitely better than doing nothing. I try and break the tasks down into smaller steps, write down the steps and get a dopamine kick when I cross them off.
Bullet Journal works well for me, particularly putting stuff in it for the months ahead. So in January I book my haircuts for the rest of the year. It's on my year wheel of admin jobs. A daily to do list is too much but weekly hits my sweetspot.
Everything goes in the Google calendar. Anything from school goes in the calendar the moment I see it on the app.
Batch lady takes a lot of strain out of planning and executing a meal plan. I didn't go out and buy loads of gear - I got the foil take away trays like from the Chinese takeaway. I even borrowed the books from the library before I bought them.
I also had to be referred twice because I didn't book an appointment. Another colleague and I were talking and she needed to book too. So I booked her for a meeting at work, we flexed our for an hour, and nailed it. We found a third colleague and every 3 weeks we have a meeting where we can support each other.
Housework is more bearable with a podcast that has 2 or more hosts, because it feels like I'm hanging out with friends.
I find getting a buddy of some sort holds me to account. So I like outdoor cooking, but I just can't seem to do it by myself. So one of my fellow guide leaders and I are taking a badge - so we have to make international food on a fire once a month for a year. Next month it's moules frites.
Continual checking in on myself - how am I doing? What do I need right now? Because some days I can do everything and others I can barely move.