Dream

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My 5 year old daughter woke up from a dream crying and upset, when I asked her what happened in her dream, she said that her uncle (my younger brother) seen her belly. I was confused by this. She didn't say much else just that she was upset he seen her belly? After she got up and ready for school she was fine. After school was fine also.

My brother is 14. There's 21 years between us. He lives with my dad and step mum about 30 miles from us so we only see them probably once every few months

What do you think this means?

Has there ever been a time where they could have been alone together?

My brother took her to the park on the estate once where we lived just down the road. That's the only time.

My brother took her to the park on the estate where we lived one time. That's the only time.

It could be nothing or it could be worrying. Without further info its impossible to say. What is your gut feeling?

Im not sure of my gut freeing as im a overthinker and worry about everything and I find it hard to tell the difference between my gut of it's it's me overthinking. I have just sat down and spoke to daughter about the park visit. She said the only thing that upset her was when he pushed her in a bush by our house and walked off. They are always winding each other up. He said then asked if she wanted to go to the shop and get some sweets. Then they went to park and came home. I asked could he have seen her body when he pushed her in the bush. She said no. I know the bush it's a shallow one outside a neighbours house

I would read advice on the nspcc about how to talk to kids about their bodies and what private parts are so if anything does happen, she has the language to be able to tell an adult exactly what has happened if anything were to happen . The advice is to use accurate scientific language so penis, vulva, etc to describe parts

I would also make certain that they are never alone together. Tbh at her age she should never be alone with a teenaged boy or a male adult that you dont completely trust.

Ive always had this conversation with my children about who is allowed to see your private parts ect. The part that's worrying me is the dream, does this mean anything?

It might have just been a weird dream. If nothing else comes up about it, I’d say just let it go but keep a closer eye on her interactions with your brother and anyone else she spends time alone with.