ADHD/Aspergers and driving

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I did post recently about my son who has recently passed his test (3rd time) and he is now struggling to drive his own car.

Im really worried. Things have improved slightly, he doesn’t stall as easily but he seems like he’s not totally under control. He isn’t sticking to lanes properly, was in the wrong lane at a roundabout and drove to fast in the supermarket car park around people. He has excuses but gets very worked up when I point things out. I feel it’s all to much for him to cope with. Different roads, different car. Change isn’t good and he doesn’t handle stress well. I hate being so negative but he’s not safe.

Has anyone else with ADHD/ Aspergers experienced issues like this and overcome them?

Could he try an automatic car? Less to focus on.

Unfortunately some people just aren’t cut out for driving, and for their sake and everyone else it’s safer to not drive at all.

No advice , but my son is on the spectrum and due to take his test this year . I’ve been concerned with the vehicle being manual and he wouldn’t consider being taught in an automatic

If he's passed his test, then just let him out in his own car on his own? It's stressful for you and your criticism of his driving will make him stressed. They do say that people only really learn to drive once they pass their tests....

I’m a driving instructor.

If it were one of my ex students I’d be more than happy to revisit lane discipline etc, how would he feel about a possible refresher? Does he realise he’s making these mistakes?

Does he game? My friends adhd son was a gamer and seemed to struggle to differentiate between fantasy and reality of driving. I remember her taking his keys until he booked and went for extra tuition.

He absolutely understands roundabouts. But this evening just did his own thing, we talked about it and his reasoning was there was nobody else around. I told him that just isn’t acceptable and he agrees but I don’t really understand why he thought that would be ok. I’m thinking he should see his instructor again. Problem is they are 1.5 hours away and he definitely can’t drive back there.