Two year old behaviour feels relentless and making everyone miserable at home

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God, my two year old is just vile.

I know … it’s a stage, but it feels absolutely fucking never ending and everyone is miserable.

What are the specific behaviours, and people may be able to advise on strategies to manage it

Is there a new sibling?

No new sibling, sorry I posted in a bit of emotion this morning as I’m just out of ideas and I guess it’s jus a phase but it’s a bloody horrible one 😂

Your two year old is not vile - but they are two, and some of their behaviour will be unpleasant.

It's fine to vent but it is not fair to blame a small child for normal toddler behaviour. If you need a quick break and they are safe, go and stare at their baby pictures (or pictures of them asleep) to remind yourself they are your tiny baby.

Reframe the situation. Your toddler is - struggling to communicate, struggling to manage being tired, struggling to manage emotions. You, as an adult, can help them with this.

Who is 'everyone' at home?

What particular toddler behaviour is going on? Screaming? Tantrums? Headbutting? Biting? Refusing food?

https://www.nhs.uk/best-start-in-life/toddler/help-your-toddler-with-their-emotions/

OK so firstly whenever they have tantrums do toddler triage. Are they hungry, thirsty, needing to poo or wee, or feeling uncomfortable? Many many tantrums are partially caused by external factors at that age. If not, it’s often a case of just distract as much as you possibly can.

It's a bit worst of both worlds I think. They aren't so easily impressed as baby but they can't yet do the more attention requiring things that 3 year olds can.