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SUZSORTED · 26/03/2026 19:44

I think the next door neighbour has said to social services that me and Daddy went to the Co op shop this morning and left baby at home alone. they phoned me this afternoon to say they had a report. I told them yes I went to the shop this morning but was alone with our dog. I go almost every morning for milk or something we need while letting our dog out for morning walk. while Daddy looks after baby. I explained this and told them it's always in her first nap time I go and Daddy is always home when I do. Daddy phoned the social worker to confirm this. They said they need to speak to the health vistor and will be in touch. I'm not worried about this that much because I know we did not ever leave her and are good parents.

problem is I think it was him because he was outside at same time this morning watching me. he is weird and I'm always trying to avoid him. he looks through his window all the time into our home. I have to keep 1 window curtain closed 24/7 because of it.
I also spoke to a friend who used to live next door to him about it because he used to do same to her. he spyed and threw rocks at her window. She said when he goes quiet he is plotting.
she luckly moved.
now I'm worried that we are the targets. I don't want lies going to social services, that's stress and not fair. He used to try and talk to me and say rubbish about the area to me. I always said OK, sorry that's not my business or I'm not interested polite and then walk away. I'm sure he followed me into the shop a few weeks ago because he was walking towards his home when I passed him. he turned around and came into the shop and followed me out.
I just don't want reports to social services constantly because we are first time parents trying our best and I grew up in care so I get anxious about them taking her from me for no reason.
what would you do? I carnt prove anything...

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JehovasFitness · 26/03/2026 20:32

I’d comply with social services, tell the truth, and try not to worry. They’ll be used to malicious reports.

If you live by a crank who is causing you trouble, I’d try to move if practical.

SUZSORTED · 26/03/2026 21:14

sadly we are not able to move. We can not afford private rent and are renting from the council. we are classed as over crowded and will get to move eventually. I have been bidding weekly since January and have managed to bid most weeks. I'm told it could be a 2 year wait until a successful offer. we are band B and with around 300 bids on each property everytime I can only hope we get an offer soon. I am working but her dad is disabled and can not work. I've agreed new contract at work of 16hrs as I'm the main care giver to our daughter

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 26/03/2026 21:18

Could you move to an area which isn't sought after?

Don't worry about the SS referral. You can tell them that your baby isn't left on her own. They'll investigate but as long as you cooperate it will be fine.

They're used to getting malicious reports. They may even recognise the neighbour's name as a frequent reporter.

SUZSORTED · 26/03/2026 21:25

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 26/03/2026 21:18

Could you move to an area which isn't sought after?

Don't worry about the SS referral. You can tell them that your baby isn't left on her own. They'll investigate but as long as you cooperate it will be fine.

They're used to getting malicious reports. They may even recognise the neighbour's name as a frequent reporter.

I am able to just bid on our city boundary due to local connection. I am bidding on everything possible apart from one area due to high crime in that area.
As for SS I told them everything, they confirmed with dad that he was home, they said they will speak with HV don't know what they can do because we haven't had that much contact with them over the last 6 months, just a few short phonecalls regarding some weaning issues. we do have her 9_12 months review tommrow thankfully.
I am sure they can check shop CCTV if needs be or if they want I passed some bible Christians who are there every morning and they like my dog so probably they remember. It's more because theys said it was an anonymous caller... but I'm 99% sure it's him due to past behaviour and now I think he will keep trying to make trouble for me

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gamerchick · 26/03/2026 21:28

Get a ring doorbell or equivalent,.with the cloud storage. All comings and goings will be on there.

You'll probably catch him lurking as well if he makes a pest of himself.

SUZSORTED · 26/03/2026 21:35

gamerchick · 26/03/2026 21:28

Get a ring doorbell or equivalent,.with the cloud storage. All comings and goings will be on there.

You'll probably catch him lurking as well if he makes a pest of himself.

we have an intercom provided by the council last time we needed footage they couldn't provide it

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NewZebra · 26/03/2026 21:36

“Daddy”? 🤢

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 26/03/2026 21:37

SUZSORTED · 26/03/2026 21:35

we have an intercom provided by the council last time we needed footage they couldn't provide it

You can buy and install your own Ring doorbell.

SUZSORTED · 26/03/2026 21:46

NewZebra · 26/03/2026 21:36

“Daddy”? 🤢

I mean my daughters father. what's sick about that?

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youbizarrehorse · 26/03/2026 21:51

NewZebra · 26/03/2026 21:36

“Daddy”? 🤢

What the fuck is wrong with you? Someone comes on for support and this is what you’ve got?

holachicatita · 26/03/2026 21:52

Yeah the 'Daddy' thing is weird I'm sorry but I agree.

SUZSORTED · 26/03/2026 22:06

I just re read my messege and I was typing so fast.. I meant to write her dad. but again i don't see what's weird about it.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 27/03/2026 00:36

SUZSORTED · 26/03/2026 22:06

I just re read my messege and I was typing so fast.. I meant to write her dad. but again i don't see what's weird about it.

It's fine!

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