If you come from a close family, but have had a huge rift, what caused it?

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Did things ever go back the same?

My wicked sister and her evil daughter

My young adult kids and their young adult fiancé and husbands all fell out with each other for about a year a couple of years ago 🙄

Reasons too complicated to go into here - but of the 6 of them (3 DDs and 3 son-in-law's) some were speaking with some, some weren't speaking at all and one was totally ostracised.

It made it all very difficult and sad and awkward because previous to that they were all close. We all holiday together ect. All with in age range of 5 years of each other.

But it all sorted itself out thank fuck 😃 We're back to how it was before and everything is forgiven. Took a while tho.

Thanks for sharing. I will be back on this thread later and read through properly.

Money and inheritance - the usual. It’s caused a big rift between my brother and cousin. However the rest of the extended family have chosen not to take any sides, so the impact of the rift is minimal. We all feel its their beef not ours.

Although I haven't explicitly told anyone in the family, I am pretty much no contact with my step mother and her children because she (and my late father) decided to cut me and my older brother out of their wills.

Step mother is also estranged from her youngest son (my half brother). He has BPD and it's all a bit vague as to why he can't have a relationship with her any more. I think he has confused "being annoying" with "toxic" as so many younger people do now. He has withdrawn from the whole family. I have only set eyes on him 3 times in the last 10 years, once at a funeral. He used to live round the corner from me and I would see him all the time, he'd babysit my children, we'd go out for nights out. It's sad.

My dad fell out with his brother - the story was that my mum and dad wouldn't let his brother and fiancée borrow their car when brother and fiancée got married. Over time it was clearly more to do with the fiancée fancying my dad first and wanting to get with him, and my dad very much preferring my mum!

I haven't spoken to my sister for 15 years. She got a new partner when her daughter was 8 ISH and he obviously didn't want a kid around. It got even worse when they had a child of their own and he treated my niece like dirt- my sister said if she didn't like it she could leave. My niece moved in with us at 14. My sister always put her dickhead partner first and I'll never forgive her for that.

Some of these are so sad.

I distanced my own parents because they left 3/4 of their estate to my sister. The reason - she had "given" them grandchildren and I had elected to be childfree. When I attended uni as an older student I deliberately chose one in another city, knowing I would probably never retturn. My sister was the golden princess so she became their golden carer.