Help me stop ruminating!

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I can feel myself spiralling. I am so hurt by some family members compounded by a toxic as fuck in-law. I need to get over the feelings of betrayal, worthlessness and violation - how? Flooring me. It’s a separation I don’t want but I can’t gloss over what’s happened without certain behaviour acknowledged. I know this sounds vague. I am in the middle of a huge bereavement and SIL is on this site and I don’t have the bandwidth to deal with whatever shit she will throw my way if she knows how devastated I am.

I'm sorry 🤗 (I wish there was a hug that didn't look so happy!! Sorry). I'm sorry about ALL of it xx

it's a separation you don't want. Can you try to reframe it that you don't want a man (woman?) that doesn't want you. You're worth more!! It takes a little while until you accept it, but if you keep telling yourself he (I'm going to use he) has let you down, you deserve better & he isn't worth your devastation! YOU are worthy of someone that has your back!

Look at the silver lining. You don't have to deal with any of the toxic in laws ever again! Or give a flying fuck what they think!!

Give anyone in your own family who isn't supportive a wide berth for now. Talk to friends & us.

Do you have children? If so how old are they??

can you go outside for a walk? Anywhere you can go for a nice coffee & cake & just people watch for a bit. My go to when it's all feeling a but much!

though when my Dad died I couldn't cope with seeing other people carry on as if nothing had happened & just wanted to be 'at home' (our family home.

look after yourself & do whatever helps you through the day, as long as it isn't detrimental to YOU!

xx