"I was brought up to...."

[OriginalSkang]

I often see people on here saying "I was brought up to always.. " or " I was raised to...", be it treating people a certain way, raising your children a certain way, whatever it may be

My childhood wasn't great in some ways and I didn't have a particularly good role model in my mum. Is that why I can't imagine ever saying I do something just because my parents did? There are some things they did that I do, but I would never blindly follow what someone else does without thinking about it for myself

Is anyone else like this?

This is just a random thought really. Its not deep and not a thread about a thread

I’ve discarded pretty much all the scripts I grew up with, which were things like ‘No one likes a confident girl” and ‘Always defer to men’ and ‘Other people are always more important than you’ and ‘Never, ever make a scene’, and ‘Authority figures are never wrong’ and ‘Don’t hope for anything, and you’ll never be disappointed’.

this is the only one a semi agee with Don’t hope for anything, and you’ll never be disappointed’.

I had an abusive childhood but I’ve used that phrase before and I don’t use it to mean I do something just because my parents did, I say it when referring to wider things like community or wider family, education etc.

Such as I was raised to wait my turn and not push in queues. I was raised to check in on the elderly neighbours during winter. I was raised to call adults in authority Mr and Mrs. That type of thing, not because my parents told me to do but society as a whole taught the younger generations to. I’m 46 and bumped into my old science teacher and still called him Sir. Because it was so ingrained for me. 😂

… know that no one was going to help me and I’d have to manage on my own.

Be a housewife. Realise I wouldn’t be much else. Not spend money.

PennySweeet · Today 13:17
Apart from "I was brought up to believe if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all".
That sort of nonsense can get in the bin along with '#BeKind'

Be kind was misrepresented online. People should be decent to each other! And the first is handy when your kids are being horrible to each other and you’re trying not to lose it😅

Hmmm…I tend to disagree.

There’s defending yourself, or your opinions, but saying something mean typically makes a person look vulnerable IMO.

... To listen /obey / respect those in authority.

Yeah. Sod that. Most of them are power hungry bullies.

Going into work to lock horns with another one tomorrow. It's tiring.