Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Sad for my friends £125k lottery win.

840 replies

Sogfree · 24/03/2026 06:54

£125k win on the postcode lottery.

Single mum to 3 children (all primary age). Works as a TA, so receiving benefits to top up her income.

She would like to use her winnings for a deposit on a house. But due to the benefits rules not being allowed to pay a mortgage, she can't buy a property.

So she's going to spaff the entire lot as quick as she can, and the government will continue to pay rent to a multi property owner and make them richer.

The only asset she'll get to keep is a newer car - not anything fancy as she knows she won't be able to afford the insurance/fuel once the winnings run out.

Her one chance of breaking free of a life on benefits and she's got to throw it away. It feels wrong.

OP posts:
ToKittyornottoKitty · 24/03/2026 12:38

She can have a mortgage, benefits just won’t pay her mortgage like they do her rent so it might feel unaffordable for her. But she isn’t prevented from
owning property or having a mortgage, it’s still totally her choice.

Friendlygingercat · 24/03/2026 12:38

Yes the debts must be provable such as credit cards, loans, car finance, overdue rent or council tax or money owed to courts. They cannot be made up debts to relatives for which no paperwork or bank record exists. Paying off debts which already exist is regarded as a prudent means of spending the money. You are also allowed to buy a reasonably priced family car.

AlwaysLookOnTheBrightSideOfLife · 24/03/2026 12:39

HRTFT but please warn her against spending it quickly. They will assess that the £125,000 should last X amount of time and block access to benefits for that term. If she spends it all in six months she might have years to live on just her salary.

Friendlygingercat · 24/03/2026 12:41

Yes please warn her against splurging the money as she could come to regret it.

ByBreezyUser · 24/03/2026 12:44

AlwaysLookOnTheBrightSideOfLife · 24/03/2026 12:39

HRTFT but please warn her against spending it quickly. They will assess that the £125,000 should last X amount of time and block access to benefits for that term. If she spends it all in six months she might have years to live on just her salary.

The guy in Motherwell has been banned from benefits except Pip since 2017 and he blew 80k

Twinsmamma · 24/03/2026 12:46

This can’t be serious.. she has a chance to better herself property wise, but is choosing to be very stupid instead, does she want to gift it to me instead?

Tigerbalmshark · 24/03/2026 12:47

MyThreeWords · 24/03/2026 07:21

The most absurdly contorted attempt to concoct government blame that I have read, even among the politibot anti-Labour garbage that populates so much of MN these days.
Since when has there been a binary choice between using £125k on a house deposit and spaffing it away? And since when has the benefits system been under an obligation to increase the good fortune of people who have already had the stonkingly good fortune of winning £125k???

Ah, now I assumed it was yet another goady disguised-benefits-bashing thread designed to get everyone frothing.

Either way, seems to have worked….

Tryagain26 · 24/03/2026 12:47

Where in the country does she live? I can't believe it's impossible for to find a good use for the money rather than waste it.
With a 100k deposit couldn't she get a smallish mortgage that she can afford from her salary without housing benefit and then use her universal credit for living costs?
People with mortgages can still get UC you just don't get the housing benefit aspect but you might also get support with mortgage interest..Has she taken any proper advice?

Marmalademorning · 24/03/2026 12:49

She needs to get proper financial advice before she does anything rash.

AmbeeBambee · 24/03/2026 12:50

Sogfree · 24/03/2026 06:54

£125k win on the postcode lottery.

Single mum to 3 children (all primary age). Works as a TA, so receiving benefits to top up her income.

She would like to use her winnings for a deposit on a house. But due to the benefits rules not being allowed to pay a mortgage, she can't buy a property.

So she's going to spaff the entire lot as quick as she can, and the government will continue to pay rent to a multi property owner and make them richer.

The only asset she'll get to keep is a newer car - not anything fancy as she knows she won't be able to afford the insurance/fuel once the winnings run out.

Her one chance of breaking free of a life on benefits and she's got to throw it away. It feels wrong.

Is this rage bait? If she gets rid of the money quickly it will look like deprivation of assets. So why doesn't she just use the deposit for a house or buy a chunk towards a house and a car (which is allowed) rather than trying to get rid of the money to continue to get benefits.

AmbeeBambee · 24/03/2026 12:52

SunnySuze · 24/03/2026 06:58

Ridiculous post. Of course she can use the money wisely and actually provide for her family! You and her are being very short sighted here.

Its just ragebait.

ByBreezyUser · 24/03/2026 12:54

If they think she's bought a house to stay on benefits it could count as deprivation of capital

ToKittyornottoKitty · 24/03/2026 12:55

ByBreezyUser · 24/03/2026 12:54

If they think she's bought a house to stay on benefits it could count as deprivation of capital

She’d receive significantly less benefits if she bought a house, and it’s a very valid use of money. So incredibly unlikely they would see it as deprivation of capital.

Cakewon · 24/03/2026 12:56

This is her escape to better herself? Retrain earn more money and keep enough for a house deposit for when she is on a higher salary. Surely being on benefits forever isn’t the answer. Plus when her children are out of education the benefits will reduce significantly and then what will she do!

ByBreezyUser · 24/03/2026 12:57

ToKittyornottoKitty · 24/03/2026 12:55

She’d receive significantly less benefits if she bought a house, and it’s a very valid use of money. So incredibly unlikely they would see it as deprivation of capital.

Edited

They'll look at it on a case by case basis I'm pretty sure. The issue is she doesn't want to pay a mortgage because the dwp don't pay them.

ByBreezyUser · 24/03/2026 12:58

Cakewon · 24/03/2026 12:56

This is her escape to better herself? Retrain earn more money and keep enough for a house deposit for when she is on a higher salary. Surely being on benefits forever isn’t the answer. Plus when her children are out of education the benefits will reduce significantly and then what will she do!

The issue seems to be that the OPs friend doesn't want to pay rent or pay a mortgage. She wants the same lifestyle she has at the moment to continue

AmbeeBambee · 24/03/2026 12:58

KitsyWitsy · 24/03/2026 08:42

I know someone who won a million on a scratchy. Still in her council house. I have no idea what she does with the money.

Not all people who live in council houses are poor..

ToKittyornottoKitty · 24/03/2026 12:58

ByBreezyUser · 24/03/2026 12:57

They'll look at it on a case by case basis I'm pretty sure. The issue is she doesn't want to pay a mortgage because the dwp don't pay them.

I know that’s her issue. But it doesn’t mean they’d see buying a house as deprivation of assets, it’s just not going to happen, it isn’t a deprivation of assets.

Spiderx · 24/03/2026 12:59

Sogfree · 24/03/2026 06:54

£125k win on the postcode lottery.

Single mum to 3 children (all primary age). Works as a TA, so receiving benefits to top up her income.

She would like to use her winnings for a deposit on a house. But due to the benefits rules not being allowed to pay a mortgage, she can't buy a property.

So she's going to spaff the entire lot as quick as she can, and the government will continue to pay rent to a multi property owner and make them richer.

The only asset she'll get to keep is a newer car - not anything fancy as she knows she won't be able to afford the insurance/fuel once the winnings run out.

Her one chance of breaking free of a life on benefits and she's got to throw it away. It feels wrong.

You can still buy a house outrighr "oop norf" for that sort of money !

KitsyWitsy · 24/03/2026 13:00

AmbeeBambee · 24/03/2026 12:58

Not all people who live in council houses are poor..

She was poor. She isn’t now. Didn’t want to move. I would have. Up to her really.

ByBreezyUser · 24/03/2026 13:00

There are some dwp staff who help out on the benefit boards on reddit. She would get advice there.

Purplebunnie · 24/03/2026 13:01

@KitsyWitsy she may have used some of her windfall to buy her council house and to put some away for a rainy day, she may have given some of it to charity, made sure friends and relatives are okay

Not everyone who lives in a council house is on benefits

AmbeeBambee · 24/03/2026 13:01

silverstorm101 · 24/03/2026 11:29

My friend has kids and her hubby works full time and she works part time and they get UC top up, she recently inherited 30k which she was so happy about but then obviously her UC stopped.

There are strict rules on what you can buy as for it not to be classed as a deprivation of capital, so her excitement soon stopped.

No nice holidays to treat the kids, she couldn't gift the kids any, basically most of it was used to live on and replace the missing UC till it ran out.

Sometimes a windfall isn't as great as you first think it could be.

Oh to live in a world where your wages cover your living expenses well enough to not need to claim any top ups from the government.

You can buy a house on universal credit with inheritance as long as its your main residence.

Friendlygingercat · 24/03/2026 13:01

If she was already a mortgage payer who had fallen on hard times or low paid and was getting topped up by UC she could legitimately pay off a chunk of her mortgage because a mortgage is a debt. So why the rage because she is a tenant?

Melsse3 · 24/03/2026 13:01

Purplebunnie · 24/03/2026 12:02

2 bed flats for sale in St Leonards on Sea in the expensive South East on the sea front no less

Of course she needs bigger with 3 kids but should be able to find somewhere less expensive

you are so right, never heard of this area and i can see some 2 beds for 140k, it does look like a rubbish area though

Swipe left for the next trending thread