I know I’m being unreasonable but I need to vent!

[paulhollywoodshairgel]

We have neighbours with 4 young kids. I suspect one is probably neurodiverse. Here is where I know I’m being unreasonable. Said child screams and screeches all day long. Then added to it, it gets worse when her siblings get home from school. Literally high pitched screeching all day every day. Obviously I can’t/wont ever bring it up as a problem as god knows how her parents cope. I just need to let out my feeling on the matter. It’s driving me insane. I’ve got misophonia and some severe MH issues which doesn’t help! I just can’t stand it. Anyone else feel the same?? I’ve invested in some ear plugs.

We had this many years ago and I posted on here. I was told children grow up, which is true, but it was endless, partly due to the parents leaving the 3 dc in the garden and doing zero parenting.

Eventually, we went round after the endless screaming (caused by the elder sister relentlessly treating the younger screaming one poorly, changing rules of a game so she could never win/understand how to play) and complained. It put a stop to it but they then stopped talking to us until recently (20 years?!) I don’t think the screamer was nd, tho.

You could speak to the parent, but it may not end well. It may be pretty impossible to stop. I massively empathise, tho. The screaming ruined my fil’s last summer, we couldn’t even open the window or sit him in the garden. 🙁

It's not unreasonable to be bothered by the noise! Complaining to the parents would be unreasonable, but you've said you're not going to do that. All you can do is try to minimise how much you hear through earplugs and soundproofing if that's an option.

I feel for you OP.

I don't have misophonia and yet my life was made so miserable in a very similar situation a few years ago.

Obviously I didn't complain either and actually the parents of the loud child would often apologise when they saw me, and explain that she had SEN.

I'd just reply with "Honestly it's fine. You're doing your best, don't give it another thought".

But oh my goodness my life was miserable until they moved out.

I would do everything I could to move. 💐

I feel for you we live in a terrace house and we've had some awful neighbours in the past the noise really does get to you after a while

Thank you all. Sometimes I want to scream just to drown out the noise!! I want to feel bad for the parents but I did just hear the dad call one of them a c word so now I don’t! I’ve been chatting to a neighbour who knows them better and the child is non verbal autistic and apparently screeching is how she communicates. It literally starts at 7am and goes on and on all day. Also now the weathers better they are outside until it gets dark so it’s just even worse somehow!

I think yanbu for finding the noise very stressful, but yabu for not feeling bad for the parents who are dealing with it directly!

I suffer with that too op. I recently got a small blue tooth speaker. Drowns out any ndn noise... When they start being decent ndn's and defer from building works and neglecting their fucking ddog by leaving it outside barking for usually 2 hours slots I'll switch it off.
Works a treat.

I do feel bad for them mostly but not when they call their kids the c word!

We had a summer of this when a family rented the house next to us. Their youngest ds, aged around 9, would have the most epic tantrums with shrieking, slamming and foul language. The fence was badly damaged as he kicked it relentlessly .
to make matters worse, they never seemed to go out and the children were in the garden during any hours of daylight.

There were clearly issues and I didn’t complain other than when they started to climb into our garden over the struts on their side of the fence, getting down via a ladder they put in bushes against our fence(!)

I cried with relief when they moved out (to emigrate to Australia)