sorry for the long message but I’m needing some advice in the regard to my best friend of 16 years. With the past year been the real test of should I end this? For context in the past she has said some questionable stuff, or if I’ve said something I don’t agree with/like she’ll call me negative but I’ve just moved on. I should also add we work together, same team but different managers. Anyway here is the issue.
it stemmed a year ago when me and my FH were buying a home together and I was selling my house I owned myself. She or her husband didn’t like the house as it wasn’t brand new more next to them like she always envisioned, it was over 100 year old and didn’t look “that nice of a street” despite the house being in a much nicer part of our city, where me and my partner both work, so it’s convenient for us, it’s private, massive front and back garden, two gates, driveway and not overly overlooked and for the age doesn’t need much work just decorating. Her and husband were very negative not supportive and said worst decision ever and said no one would visit despite it only been an extra 10 mins travel going from 17 mins to 27/30 mins.
then she complained I copied her dress for a wedding we were attending, saying why would you do that or atleast confide in me first? The dress was nothing alike, mine was green, hers brown, completely different styles and fit the only similarity it was floral but even that was different, but it was a summer wedding?? Why did she expect?
there have been other instances such as them (her and husband) not wanting to do something with us for Halloween but then because we said no to a Christmas event they booked it anyway and said we were spiteful and saying we only said no cause they’d said no to Halloween (but they booked a Friday and I couldn’t get the time off and I suggested a day on the weekend) anyway with other stuff, we ended up having it out with each other on a massive text thread argument , sharing our feelings and issues how I’ve been feeling et , she’s not really acknowledged it and basically said we either end the friendship now or call it a day…it’s your call, so me being me apologised and wiped the slate clean to start over as I didn’t want to lose that friendship she didn’t really apologise not how I did anyway.
fast forward 6 months later she got the face on with me because I went on a walk with two colleagues which meant she would be alone on dinner for like 20 mins, so she went home (and I know she was pissed off) I waited a few hours and messaged her in a bantery way saying “cheered up yet” like I would normally and she took offence saying why would you go on a walk? Since when do you that? We were complaining about them (the other colleagues) then you go on a walk with them?
im like I’m sorry since when you do say who I can go on a walk with? I admit I am two faced as I want to get on with everyone an I do like my colleague but it’s only natural to gossip behind backs but I still like them and get on with them. Anyway she went on to say I got you this job you’re so ungrateful sometimes, but not once have I said I hate my job and she didn’t get me the job, she just put a word in, and apparently I rub it in her face my manager is more flexible than hers.
there is other stuff that always make me question the friendship, I apparently withhold stuff from her but I didn’t realise I had to tell her about everything in my life? I even messaged her two days after this last argument after I ignored her wanting to calm down, to say my parents shed was burgled and she didn’t acknowledge it not even to see if they were okay, I’ve not heard from her since that was a week ago.