How have you seen things change for women during your lifetime ?

[HavefunGomadLivingInTheCity]

Been trying to fond some documentaries about life as a woman in the UK 100 to 150 years ago, not really found anything yet
Alot of things around the 70s

I never knew my maternal grandmother and paternal one didn't talk much
So I don't know much about my previous generations
Guess mothers day got me thinking

So have you seen any good documentaries about this..?

Or what things have you seen change

I'm late 40s and I remember when the law changed so you can't rape your wife, and I remember my mum saying it was nonsense

My mum worked full-time and did everything at home so think she got a pretty shit deal
But I see alot of friends and peers doing this
Certainly don't think things should go back or anything perhaps so much has changed and things are struggling to change at the same pace

Clean but not sterile. A surgeon or a Dr carrying out a procedure and a scrub nurse will have a sterile outer layer and gloves.

Socks / tights etc are what you wore to get to work.

Wow that's outrageous
I dint even know that's what indecent assault ment

Because they don't want to do that and everything at home too

@HavefunGomadLivingInTheCity Why would they need to? I have a career and always have had, and three kids.

My husband shares the childcare and the housework as he also works.
Equality.

The responsibility women and girls were ascribed to manage and control male sexual behaviour was quite something. I grew up in a church environment where the expectation was that women dressed modestly, because they would be responsible if a man wanted sex. The description of “being in trouble” to describe pregnant teenagers, no sense that the boy she had sex with was also in trouble. The concept of leading a man on or being a prick tease if you went on a date and didn’t want sex. Or lesbians being defined as too ugly to get a man.

One thing I have learned is be careful what you wish for. I was a strong proponent of women’s right to work just like men, equal pay, and argued strongly for more childcare. We got something approaching that, so that a man and a woman could both work and have a family. What happened as a result? You now NEED two salaries to buy a house, childcare costs have sky rocketed and everyone is run ragged just trying to survive.

on another note I was taught at school that women’s brains are smaller than men’s, so we will never overtake them in terms of exam results, numbers of woman at university etc. I was born in the early 60s. Current statistics show that given the opportunity women are set to outstrip men in many areas. Now men are saying it’s not fair: the education system is skewed in favour of girls. Funny that. With our little brains an all.

@FigurativelyDying Life becoming more expensive is nothing to do with men and women both being expected to work.
And actually, why shouldn't that be the expectation?
Again, equality.

Oh no, don’t misunderstand me. I remain a staunch feminist and want women to work. But I have a better understanding now of how capitalism works and how the market will bear what the market will bear

I was born in 1970. I went to an all girls grammar school. Knew I wanted to be a vet from 8 years old. Careers 'advisor' told me "women can't be vets". When i started uni less, than 50% vet students were female, and now 35+ years later, about 90% are female. Good.

I disagree with this. One of the reasons why house prices increased exponentially was because two salaries were taken into account and mortgage offers increased alongside that. Had that not happened there wouldn't have been the money to offer ever higher prices.

I am 65. I remember:

Abortion being legalised
The pill
The shame of illegitimacy (I wasn't but only because mother married in an empire line dress and my grandparents rwnted the couple a house 80 miles away to hide the shame)
Easier divorces - aged 12 I was the only girl in my class with divorced parents
Equal rights - a bot of a double edged sword
6 months mat leave: 6 weeks at 90%: 12 weeks at Stat Mat
Attitudes have changed - in 1992 an interviewer asked me what my DH did for a living and if I was planning a family
Women priests, bishops and now an archbishop
Women on the stock exchange floor but I wasn't allowed to wear trousers in the ity in the 80s
Mother and MIL had no mat leave; MIL had to stop teaching Easter 1962 before the bump became unseemly.

I was lucky because I had strong, hardworking female role models who were independent, had their own money and bank accounts and paid others to clean. Neither woukd their husbands ever have abused them in any way but theybwere sufficiently women of the world to tell me how not to get pregnant, about sex, and that if any man was ever unkind or laid a finher on me there was one solution and it was to leave and to go home.

I am at the end of my working life. Whilst I think women have more rights than I did in the 70s/80s, I think their lives are harder and more compromised. Men still don't do their fair share at home too often; women are still brainwashed to think they need a bloke/to get married and settle. Women can have it all; I have but not necessarily all of it at the same time.

My children (27 and 30) I hope will have a better compromise. I can see ds and dil working 4 days each and taking a day each of childcare, for example. Sadly for ds's career they are now living on a differwnt continent due to the annihilation of the liberal arts in HE. Swings and roundabouts.

Sadly too much sex and age discrimination prevail at a structural/societal level.

They could own houses. They couldn't get a mortgage, but it was fine to inherit a house or be given one, or presumably buy one outright, if you had the funds. Obviously this was only relevant to a minority of women.