When did you child first have a boyfriend

[purpleme12]

When did your child first have a boyfriend?
My child is first year of high school (12) and says she's got a boyfriend now. Since Friday
Not that I think they even kiss or anything.
Is this the normal age they start?

16 dd1
19 dd2
These were proper exclusive relationships lasting 3+ months.

Proper boyfriend 16. Before that a boy in the class would ask a girl to be his girlfriend she’d say yes and that was it nothing happened might not even talk to each other.

Interesting. Thanks. It just feels so different at high school

Neither of mine have ever had a boyfriend and they're nearly 22 and nearly 18! Eldest briefly dated someone last year but broke it off after a few dates so that doesn't count. Both would like one but both are picky and v busy and just tend to keep them as mates.

Most of their friends have been in and out of relationships (some more real than others, obvs) since about the age of 13/14.

My daughter was in an 18 month relationship from the age of 14. Previous to that, she had a boyfriend in year 7, where at the time nothing more than playing Fortnite happened. They bumped into each other again at 17, and have now been together 20 months.

There is a difference between “boyfriend” and boyfriend.

My dc seemed to start the “boyfriend” thing from about Y5. They don’t actually see each other outside of school in any way. At 13, she definitely doesn’t have a boyfriend that she spends actual time with though.

In these texts between them this boy said his sister said I should go out with you, like maybe we should meet up and go yours

Then he says I don't think your mum would be happy though

Would your mum let me

My child child says ummmm maybe
Or we could meet somewhere else

My child doesn't even go out with her friends anyway. If she's with friends outside of school it's at my house or just always with next door. So I'm not even sure how serious my child is when she suggested that

But is this normal with 12 year olds
And what would you say at this age if this actually did crop up

Ahem...no idea...

But as the first born....

....my fist bf was at 15. 😳 It lasted 3 whole weeks. After I lost my virginity to him he dumped me by text. And no. To this day my mum still doesn't know why that was I was so upset at my first break up 😬😳🤣

For her my first official proper bf who met the family, was when in was 16. He was a year older and in the RAF and quite the respectable gentlemen my parents actually approved of! 😱 (But they very much still obviously insisted we sleep in separate rooms!)

My dad had a boyfriend in year 5 too. I asked what he thought about it and she said she hadn’t told him 😂😂

Something about those texts doesn't sit right. I wouldn't let them meet up unsupervised/alone. I agree with others so far that 12 seems young even these days.

The texts sound a bit off to me too. Is he older?

My daughter is only 11, Year 7, but some of her friends have said they've got girlfriend/boyfriends. She's not even vaguely interested.
My sons are 15 and 16. 16 year old had just started seeing his first girlfriend about a month ago. 15 yr old is asked out quite a lot it seems, but he says he's not going out with someone unless he thinks there's a chance he might fall in love with them. So he's never had a boyfriend/girlfriend.

No he's the same year
Couple of months younger
Although I can gather from the little I know that he's more streetwise. He's texted out at 7/8 saying he's at the park with his friend(so when it's dark).I wouldn't let my child out at that time or in the dark at this age. He gets a few 'concerns' at school. He doesn't have any downtime on his phone at night apparently which my child has. He's left at home for hours in the holidays while his parents work which I guess is normal now but I don't leave my child yet. I mean not more than an hour or so.

Although I guess my child isn't streetwise at all and young for her age anyway. While she doesn't 'play' with her friends her own age, she'll still play with her friend next door who's 8 for hours.