Mother’s Day message of thanks to an unknown organ donor family

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Somewhere in the UK there is a family who gave the ultimate gift of organ donation earlier this year.

Because of that gift my husband is alive.

I know you will be grieving every day for the rest of your life; but today, Mother’s Day, from one woman to another, I want to acknowledge your gift and say thank you.

We don’t know if that gift came from a donor who was a man or a woman, only that it would have been either a late teen or likely under 40 adult - so most likely with a mum and dad aching today.

Thank you for thinking of others during the worst time of your life.

This has made me cry op.

I gave permission for my sons organs to be donated some years ago now, and I often wonder if those people think of my son at all.

I'm so glad your husband got his transplant and is recovering. And thank you for taking the time to make this post. I'm sure a lot of people in my shoes will read it and feel as I do.

Such a lovely thoughts. I’m sure anyone who’s loved one has been an organ donor will get comfort from knowing the recipient’s feel this way.

What a thoughtful and heartfelt message OP, I hope the donors family hear about your post and moreover, that they hear the sincere gratitude that shines out. If I was ever in their shoes, your message would warm my heart ❤️

Hi @DestinedToBeOutlived if you want to use this safe space to talk about your boy today of all days, please do.

Oh god op that has made me cry and sign up to the organ donation register. Wishing you and your family all the best

What a lovely selfless thing to do, I am sure that your recipients family think of your son. My friend was lucky enough to get a life saving double organ transplant and we think of her donor and their family every year on the anniversary of her transplant. Wishing you a peaceful day

I know 2 transplant recipients and not a day goes by without them thinking about the family who gave them a chance of life. @DestinedToBeOutlived I’m positive they will be thinking of you today. Take care of yourself today and always, you did an amazing thing.

Thank you 💐

I really don't have as many stories about him as I would like, he was very, very young when he died.

His name is Scott, and he was just gorgeous, the biggest, wisest eyes, and a mop of beautiful dark hair.

His little face made me laugh every day, he giggled as I sang Celine Dion songs to him in a funny voice, and I always dressed him in green, it really suited him.

I was a young mum myself, but that little boy ws my absolute everything, and I still think of him every day. Oddly enough I really try not to think about the children who received the transplants, I find it really difficult. Even at the time it was the parents I thought about, I suppose it's because I was in their shoes.

Thank you for allowing me to talk about him. It's not often I get the chance these days.

I truly wish you and your husband many more years of health and happiness.

Thank you for sharing Scott with us @DestinedToBeOutlived , he sounds a precious boy.

@DestinedToBeOutlived Scott sounds absolutely beautiful. I am so very sorry for your loss. Thank you to you, and all the other donor families here, for finding a way through your unimaginable grief and pain to give the greatest gift of hope and time to other suffering families.

Aw OP that made me cry. My sister is on the transplant register and we all really struggle that for her to have a chance of life someone else has lost theirs.

When I go they can take anything useable. It would be the greatest final honor for me.

Another thank you from me.

Another family's kindness lasted far beyond the initial 10 years we believed his new kidney would give him. Their generosity gave us 25 years in all and so many happy times together.

I’m a transplant recipient and I found an altruistic live donor indirectly from a mumsnet post. It’s impossible to express the gratitude I feel and the wide number of lives which have been impacted by someone’s selfless gift. So yes, anyone who’s loss has resulted in someone’s chance at life, please know how valuable that choice is. 🙏

What a lovely thing to post OP.

Organ donation is truly the ultimate gift. I know somebody who was on the waiting list too long and by the time a match was found, he was unfortunately too poorly to be considered for it, so he didn't make it.

This is a lovely post op and to Scott’s mum who made such a difficult but amazing decision.

This is a lovely post, I'm glad you got to keep your husband as a result of someone's selfless gift. And Scott's mum, thank you for sharing his memory with us.

When it's our time to go we've all agreed they can take it all. <3

Such a beautiful sentient. Makes me realise how futile and pathetic most of the other Mother's Day posts on here have been.

It is not quite the same but my brother donated bone marrow a few years ago. About 50 miles north of me there is a woman who I have never met and will never meet but whose blood is genetically quite similar to mine and who spent Mother’s Day with her children today.

That makes me quite happy.

@DestinedToBeOutlived
Thank you for sharing your memories of Scott with us .
Sending love to you this Mothers Day and every other day .
Your selfless act has made such a difference to another family , bless you .

I just wanted to pop back and apologise to op for taking over the thread a bit, but also to thank those of you who took time out of your day to read about my boy, and call me Scott's Mum. It's been a long time since that's happened and it really means a lot, especially on Mother's day 💐

You will always be Scott's Mum ❤️

You were Scott’s mum, and you still are Scott’s mum.

And I am so glad you replied to my thread and shared your story.

Of course they do. They appreciate him, and you, every day.
My husband was also saved by an organ donor. A woman who probably had kids of her own. Their lives destroyed- I think of them every day