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How do you know when it's the right time to move?

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atiaofthejulii · 14/03/2026 16:11

Ugh, we've been in this house as a family for coming up to 26 years, now it's just me and my youngest DD who is actively trying to move out. I had a shit year last year and said to myself that I would have 6 months to a year this year just to let things settle down and regroup. My plan originally was to try to move this year but that got scuppered by events, and I thought I would stay in this house for another 2 or 3 years.

But I've been upset again recently about everything that happened, and I've applied for 4 jobs that would all require relocation - so far I've had 3 interview invitations and a phone call apologising for the delay (reckon I have a good chance for an interview for that one as well). I do feel like I need things to change. But also I really don't feel emotionally resilient enough to deal with getting a new job, selling, buying, moving, etc.

I suppose I sort of think I might never feel up to it, and that I should just make myself do it. How does anyone ever get themselves sorted enough to do this??? 😂

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timoteigirl · 14/03/2026 16:23

Could you rent your home out and rent in the new location? This would buy you more time also to find out where in the new location you want and afford to buy.

If that is too much,at least start decluttering, thinking what you wouldn't take with you.

zurigo · 14/03/2026 16:31

You're looking at it all in one go, which is always totally overwhelming. Take things one at a time. See if you get offered a job (or jobs). If you do, pick which one will suit you best. Choose based on job, but also location. Then rent your place out and rent somewhere near new job. See if you like it. Get to know the new area. There is no hurry to sell up or commit. Take the pressure off and things will work themselves out.

atiaofthejulii · 14/03/2026 17:30

Thank you. I think I've been spiralling about the situation. Will try to look at it bit by bit, and will find out about what I would need to do to rent this place out.

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atiaofthejulii · 14/03/2026 17:30

Thank you. I think I've been spiralling about the situation. Will try to look at it bit by bit, and will find out about what I would need to do to rent this place out.

yes write it down and then split into smaller tasks to see what you can do to prep but not to feel overwhelmed. Take care

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