Birthday gifts from the In-laws

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Do you get a birthday present from your IL’s? I don’t. I just wondered whether it was common or not.

No, never. It’s not something I ever expected. I’m quite fond of them, but I’m just background noise as far as they’re concerned, over the past 30 years.

My lovely MIL gives me gift vouchers which I really appreciate.

Yes I do and my partner also receives them from my parents

No, but that's because we just don't do gifts. We don't do birthday gifts for them and they don't do birthday gifts for DH or me.

I got a lovely message either by text email or card and we do the same for them.

Yes, if we’re visiting around my birthday MIL will usually pick out something like earrings from a local craft market or a cute scarf; if not visiting it’s usually an Amazon voucher. I’ve always exchanged parents with partners’ parents in other relationships, too; but I’ve always gotten on well with families of my partners. I’d say if you have a good relationship with ILs it would be considered fairly normal to give and receive birthday presents; if you don’t then obviously that would change it.

Yes. My late DH's parents hated me but always spent roughly the same on me as on him for appearances sake.

My parents were very generous with DH because they genuinely saw him as a son.

Current DP's parents mother gets me lovely gifts. Token in nature, nothing personal, but always something I'll use.

Yes and I do the same for my DILs.

I do, usually a gift voucher. It’s taken a long time to get to that point. Before that for like 10 years, I’d get a Burt’s Bees gift set. Every bloody year. I don’t even like Burt’s Bees. The thought was nice, but they were just piling up. Dh finally made some suggestions. I really don’t need or want anything. I don’t like gifts.

My in-laws aren't together and both remarried.

FIL gives me a card

MIL has given a gift if she remembers. I'd prefer nothing, because the gifts have included a primark onesie 2 sizes too small, a nylon quilt set from temu with a massive dogs head on it (wrong size for our bed also) and a cooking apron with a slogan on the front!

Yes. My husband is an only child though so I am the only daughter in law. FIL is on his own now and is 89 so he will ask my husband for suggestions and my husband will get the gift. I also get a lovely old school papershop card, he gets that himself - the ones with the lining and the flowery words. I actually think he means the words as well which is amazing to me as my mum gets me a very generic card i.e. not one that says to my daughter with no verse inside and no nice words. He got me a Me and Em voucher for Christmas I am very lucky to have him (not just because of the me and em voucher!).

My mum forgot my husbands birthday til she saw something on Fb from another friend so he didn't get a card or a present, she gave him £20 for a drink a few weeks later. He's her only son in law as I am also an only child. I got the better deal!

No. But then I don’t encourage presents, I would rather buy stuff I like than random things I have no use for. MIL would get me clothes that don’t fit, vouchers four somewhere I don't shop, a book I wouldn’t enjoy… Just makes another job taking things to the charity shop!