I'm still stuck in the middle of a prolonged and messy divorce trying to get out of an abusive situation - should have divorced and moved by now but he's dragging things out. He has been made to move out, so at least I've got some space, but I'm still struggling to adjust to safety, especially as he is still keeping up the abuse. I've done my best to hide what's been going on, but somehow he's getting worse and my 8 y.o daughter is really feeling the stress too. I'm doing all the usual to protect us with DV support, police, GP, school, social workers etc.
My daughter wants to celebrate mother's day with me, but I'm not sure how to! Got brain washed over 20 years into not wanting or needing anything for myself. My own mum died during the worst part of the abuse, so there's lots of painful memories there.
In previous years, I've asked for a hug and a homemade card or picture. That's all I've ever wanted. But this Mother's Day seems to be this really important thing for my daughter. So - any ideas? What do you do?