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I dread nighttimes

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Littleredstone · 05/03/2026 22:00

From about 6 months into my pregnancy I started to hate night times.

It was the time day I knew I wasn't going to rest because my hips and back would start aching and sleep was impossible.

Now baby is here the dread is not going away. I hate it when the sun goes down because it i.know the night time comes and it's the loneliest time of the day. I'm constantly on high alert listening out for my baby, not resting and worried that if she is wakes I need to try and keep her quiet due to my sleeping husband who has work in the morning.

My baby is six weeks old and sleep pattern is changing so even more erratic for night times. I know things will get better soon but just wanted to put it out there.

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FlowerPowerM · 05/03/2026 22:26

Night times are really hard in the first few weeks, it really is tough. But it does get better and that’s coming from someone who had one baby that was a terrible sleeper and it still got better for me.
Have you got another room you can go in to do the night feeds? I used to watch box sets of my comfort shows during feeding time - baby didn’t notice at such a young age. Or I would listen to a pod cast on something light hearted to get my mind off it. It will probably have improved in a matter of weeks Flowers

WarmHare · 06/03/2026 22:08

The night time scaries - that’s what I called them (I have two DC) had it with both of them for the first three or so months… they stop eventually & one night you’ll go to bed & realise you’re not experiencing it.

Can DH help on the nights when he isn’t at work the next day? I’m not sure how you are choosing to feed baby, but if your EBF he can help with nappy changes/rocking back to sleep or if you’re bottle feeding (pump or formula) surely on those nights he can help. Often just knowing you’ll get a little help on a few nights can help ease the anxiety.

Good luck, you will get through this.

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Littleredstone · 07/03/2026 13:14

WarmHare · 06/03/2026 22:08

The night time scaries - that’s what I called them (I have two DC) had it with both of them for the first three or so months… they stop eventually & one night you’ll go to bed & realise you’re not experiencing it.

Can DH help on the nights when he isn’t at work the next day? I’m not sure how you are choosing to feed baby, but if your EBF he can help with nappy changes/rocking back to sleep or if you’re bottle feeding (pump or formula) surely on those nights he can help. Often just knowing you’ll get a little help on a few nights can help ease the anxiety.

Good luck, you will get through this.

He does try to help out over the weekends to give me a break but at the moment baby is cluster feeding every 20-30 minutes or so and im breast feeding. He does his best but gets frustrated when he can't help baby stop crying. I also can't get that much milk out at any one time so it's a bit of a struggle.

Typically she is fighting sleep as well so constant tears.

I know it's going to get better and I'll be able to sleep properly in my bed once more at some point. Doesn't help me and my husband now have coughs and colds with baby getting snotty too.

Just got ride it through but I really appreciate everyone's support and just being able to talk to people. I don't have any friends and just my parents to chat to.

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WarmHare · 07/03/2026 20:51

Littleredstone · 07/03/2026 13:14

He does try to help out over the weekends to give me a break but at the moment baby is cluster feeding every 20-30 minutes or so and im breast feeding. He does his best but gets frustrated when he can't help baby stop crying. I also can't get that much milk out at any one time so it's a bit of a struggle.

Typically she is fighting sleep as well so constant tears.

I know it's going to get better and I'll be able to sleep properly in my bed once more at some point. Doesn't help me and my husband now have coughs and colds with baby getting snotty too.

Just got ride it through but I really appreciate everyone's support and just being able to talk to people. I don't have any friends and just my parents to chat to.

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It’s so difficult when they cluster feed at night, even worse when everyone is snotty and full of colds.

Re: he gets frustrated, the only way to get past this is for him to learn how to settle baby his own way, singing, swaying, shusshing, it’s hard but so is breastfeeding

ThatMintMember · 07/03/2026 22:43

Perhaps you could make some friends so you'd have someone to talk to during the night so you dont feel so alone? Or even start a chat on here for those in the same boat? I had NCT friends and other friends who I'd message or reply to during the night. It was really helpful to know I wasn't the only one up during the night with a little one :) you could also meet people through baby classes, new parent meet ups or breastfeeding support groups.

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