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Wiresring · 05/03/2026 13:43

What does this mean?

I keep getting messages from my GP inviting me to their Wellness day.

Are they being kind in inviting me? Are they asking me to be kind and go?

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tarheelbaby · 05/03/2026 13:46

Presumably, it's a bulk message and 'kindly' means that they aren't inviting you personally for any specific medical reason.

EmpressaurusKitty · 05/03/2026 13:56

It’s the weird newish use of the word. I frequently get messages kindly requesting or kindly reminding me about something.

Miranda65 · 05/03/2026 13:58

It's poor grammar, of course, and simply another reason not to attend 🤣

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gamerchick · 05/03/2026 13:58

I got invited to one of these and it was hosted in a centre next to the food bank in a medium sized room. It was utterly rammed with people coughing and spluttering.

I backed out slowly.

NameChangeElaine · 05/03/2026 14:02

EmpressaurusKitty · 05/03/2026 13:56

It’s the weird newish use of the word. I frequently get messages kindly requesting or kindly reminding me about something.

It’s not newish, my mum used to write that in letters to my primary school and I’m 40 in a few months.

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 14:03

It's quite a traditional wording. Not "new" at all.

janietreemore · 05/03/2026 14:05

NameChangeElaine · 05/03/2026 14:02

It’s not newish, my mum used to write that in letters to my primary school and I’m 40 in a few months.

How interesting. I only remember it as 'would you kindly do this?' Or 'Anne has kindly done that' . Not ' kindly invited'.

x2boys · 05/03/2026 14:18

Its just one those generic terms ,like when you get emails signed off with kind regards when the person sending it isn't being kind at all.

DameOfThrones · 05/03/2026 14:19

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 14:03

It's quite a traditional wording. Not "new" at all.

Yes, I'm in my mid-fifties and this language from doctors, schools etc has always been in use.

PheasantandAstronomers · 05/03/2026 14:21

NameChangeElaine · 05/03/2026 14:02

It’s not newish, my mum used to write that in letters to my primary school and I’m 40 in a few months.

But it has a correct usage too, when making a request, which was presumably what your mother was doing if it was in a letter to school eg 'Kindly allow Amy to leave school at 2 pm tomorrow for a dentist's appointment.'

Wiresring · 05/03/2026 14:22

I've seen kindly used in requests and sign offs often. I haven't seen kindly invited.

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PheasantandAstronomers · 05/03/2026 14:22

DameOfThrones · 05/03/2026 14:19

Yes, I'm in my mid-fifties and this language from doctors, schools etc has always been in use.

Only for requests.

So the OP's GP could have correctly said 'Kindly let the practice know if you plan to attend our wellness day on March 28th by phoning XXXX.'

PheasantandAstronomers · 05/03/2026 14:23

Wiresring · 05/03/2026 14:22

I've seen kindly used in requests and sign offs often. I haven't seen kindly invited.

Whoever wrote it is just being illiterate.

SerenityScout · 05/03/2026 14:23

tarheelbaby · 05/03/2026 13:46

Presumably, it's a bulk message and 'kindly' means that they aren't inviting you personally for any specific medical reason.

I agree with this.

DameOfThrones · 05/03/2026 14:25

PheasantandAstronomers · 05/03/2026 14:22

Only for requests.

So the OP's GP could have correctly said 'Kindly let the practice know if you plan to attend our wellness day on March 28th by phoning XXXX.'

Not really no.

My primary school letters to my parents used to read

"You are kindly invited to the PTA annual dinner and dance".

I think at some point they may have switched from 'cordially' invited, as they might've thought it less formal sounding?

7238SM · 05/03/2026 14:29

Maybe the practice get a payment if you attend and its their way of saying PLEASE come in so we get money? 🤷‍♀️

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 16:53

PheasantandAstronomers · 05/03/2026 14:21

But it has a correct usage too, when making a request, which was presumably what your mother was doing if it was in a letter to school eg 'Kindly allow Amy to leave school at 2 pm tomorrow for a dentist's appointment.'

This is correct usage. It always had been. "You are kindly invited" has appeared on invitations for centuries.

janietreemore · 05/03/2026 17:33

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 16:53

This is correct usage. It always had been. "You are kindly invited" has appeared on invitations for centuries.

Not saying you are wrong, but I've only seen 'cordially invited.' Perhaps it is regional.

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 17:37

janietreemore · 05/03/2026 17:33

Not saying you are wrong, but I've only seen 'cordially invited.' Perhaps it is regional.

It's not regional.

janietreemore · 05/03/2026 17:44

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 17:37

It's not regional.

How do you mean? Do you mean 'kindly invited' is used everywhere? I've never heard it until today.

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 17:47

janietreemore · 05/03/2026 17:44

How do you mean? Do you mean 'kindly invited' is used everywhere? I've never heard it until today.

Well it's been used for centuries, with no particular regional connotations imo.

Do a Google. You'll get thousands and thousands of instances 😀

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 17:48

"You are kindly invited to...", "Mrs and Mrs So and So kindly invite you...", etc etc.

janietreemore · 05/03/2026 17:53

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 17:47

Well it's been used for centuries, with no particular regional connotations imo.

Do a Google. You'll get thousands and thousands of instances 😀

I've done a quick Google and only found 'you are kindly invited' in US and Indian phraseology. The form 'Amy kindly invited me' is there of course. 'Cordially invited' is suggested as an alternative by Wikipaedia.
Google has its own algorithms of course for what it shows. I don't want an argument about it - it's just interesting.

Rewmin · 05/03/2026 17:56

I think it's intended to be polite, but actually ISN'T polite, when you think about it logically.

So they think they're being kind in offering you an invitation? Patronising at best.

As pp have said, it seems as though they're getting mixed up with other uses of the word "kindly," and assuming it's just a random word which signifies politeness. Not thinking about the actual meaning of the sentence.

I wouldn't mind being "cordially" invited to something.

PheasantandAstronomers · 05/03/2026 17:59

OhWhatABeautifulDay · 05/03/2026 16:53

This is correct usage. It always had been. "You are kindly invited" has appeared on invitations for centuries.

I'd be interested to see evidence of this.