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Graduation photos and rosary beads.

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sashh · 05/03/2026 10:18

My father passed away recently, from his house I have been given a couple of boxes of things.

One box contains pictures of my various graduations. The big ones, the ones parent and grandparents display. It seems a shame to throw them but I don't want to hang them up as some shrine to myself.

Does anyone have any ideas? I could just throw them and recycle the frames.

The other thing I keep coming across is rosary beads.

Now I'm the type of atheist who makes Richard Dawkins look like a lightweight.

Google tells me they can be burned or buried. I don't want to attempt burning plastic and burying them in the garden seems a bit off,

Again any suggestions?

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PheasantandAstronomers · 05/03/2026 11:18

TheUnlitRoom · 05/03/2026 11:12

Well yes, I agree, far simpler to throw them out but OP seems scared to do so hence my wondering why if she is such a staunch atheist!

I think that given her father has only recently died, and his faith was presumably important to him, she's reluctant to bin something she associates with him. I mean, I don't think it has anything to do with her own beliefs. I'm a contentedly atheist cradle Catholic who has to stop myself automatically genuflecting in churches, just out of habit. It's been a good 30 years since I was in a church for anything other than weddings and funerals, but I still know the entire liturgy, even the more obscure bits of Benediction.

fast50 · 05/03/2026 12:03

I'm a Catholic and knew nothing about this so I had a look and it's actually in Canon Law. If the rosary beads or other religious objects have been blessed then they are considered sacred objects and should be either burnt or buried. If they haven't been blessed you can throw them away. Another site suggests giving them away to someone who would like them or to hand them to a priest.

You are intending to bury your parents' ashes so I would suggest you bury the rosary beads with them. If you don't want to do that then hand them in at a local RC church.

You can be an atheist and still want to handle items that mattered to your Dad with respect without having to believe that they are sacred items.
I don't agree with the posts along the lines of "You're an atheist, what do you care, just chuck them?" Of course you care, they were your Dad's and mattered to him.

As for the photos, if you don't want to display them then put them in an album or take a photo and save them digitally and throw the originals away.

Coffeeishot · 05/03/2026 12:07

Yes bury them with your parents that is a respectful idea, i was at a funeral recently and they had some on the coffin i assumed they were being buried with the deceased.

Nofeckingway · 05/03/2026 12:46

I have a lot of rosary beads . Some are more special than others . My mother had some from Lourdes that were blessed . They were buried with her . She had a pair from Rome as a souvenir, I passed them on . I have a pair in a box from my Communion that makes me smile . They aren't very big so you could keep them for now and decide later .
If you have a copy of your graduation photos , bin your father's. If not I would suggest you keep them . You might regret not having them . Again not huge items to keep.

PinkForgetMeNot · 05/03/2026 12:54

TheUnlitRoom · 05/03/2026 10:59

Ok that makes more sense but I would argue that burning them is far more disrespectful to his religion and him than simply donating them to someone who would appreciate them. Also, its surely not very good for the environment

OP clearly wrote "I don't want to attempt burning plastic" in her very first post. Why are you getting so worked up over nothing?
If the rosary beads are completely meaningless to you then why do they need to be burnt? what an irrationally angry feeling towards something you admit you have no belief in! 🤣
Weird!

sashh · 07/03/2026 06:27

Thank you all for the answers, I think burying with the ashes is the best way forward.

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