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How to grow and accept this chapter?

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carlieghx988 · 03/03/2026 12:38

Please limit criticism. I may sound silly at times!

I had my eldest at 23. Hes 4 now just turned and he is everything I ever dreamed of , I love being a mummy but I chose not to think ahead to him getting older and this is just the start.

He was a mummys boy always eantef me only , did go to family etc but it was different with me, there wasn't a second of the day I felt lonely.

Hes growing up a little and idolise DH wants to be a "big boy" and now it's not just me favorited. Also I am part time so have both my kids alone dh works full time so I have more time with them and have to do the telling off when they hit etc. I feel like im boring mum and hes sick of me and DH is fun and good at play fights (DS loves pretending to 'wrestle' )

Its making me sad I feel just a bit lost as my youngest is 2 she is very outwardly loving , I know this stage will come for her too. Ds is but its more little things like cuddling up to me etc his speech has been / is delayed so he can say i love you but usually when we say it to him etc.

I know as he gets older he'll love me but he'll grow up. When he's a pre teen will be too. Cool for me etc

How do I embrace growing up? I lately keep getting pangs of sadness and wishing I could go back to our early days. Probably a mixture of him seeming to mature a bit and looking at schools as he starts this year but I can't sit and wallow and I find myself of an evening doing this and during work

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 03/03/2026 12:50

One day you will miss the stage you at in right now. Even when he’s a pre teen, you will miss that stage when he’s left home. Remember to enjoy the stage you are in and look forward to who he’s becoming, don’t waste the stages looking back all the time. He won’t always live at home with you.

carlieghx988 · 03/03/2026 15:22

ToKittyornottoKitty · 03/03/2026 12:50

One day you will miss the stage you at in right now. Even when he’s a pre teen, you will miss that stage when he’s left home. Remember to enjoy the stage you are in and look forward to who he’s becoming, don’t waste the stages looking back all the time. He won’t always live at home with you.

Thank you. I dont want to blink and all ive done is missed a stage before type of thing

Just really struggling with the growing up

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ThePerfectWeekender · 03/03/2026 18:26

Don't wish their lives away. There's good and bad in all stages. I was never an embarrassment to mine when they were teens and they were lovely at that age as well (I'm definitely not a 'cool' mum either).
You can't know what the future holds, take your wins now where you can.
I love the adults my DC are and am proud I helped create a part of the success they've each become. I have 3DC. They get on brilliantly. DS1&2 work together and I'd consider them good friends. They also regularly visit DD who is at university and arrange meet ups whenever she's home.
DGD was born last year. She has brought sheer joy to all of our lives, far more so with her aunt and uncle (DC2&3), than I expected.

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