Pre paid funeral arrangements. What songs.

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Hopefully it won't be for a very long time. DH 68 and I'm 66.
We are going to organise our funerals to how we want it to be and make it easier for the family.
Both will be cremated at the moment there will be two cars but money put aside for another if needed.
Wake at the local club.
The problem is choosing the songs (not hymns as not religious)
Up to now I have a list of songs as long as my arm and keep changing my mind.
How do I narrow it down.
Or should I give the whole list and let the family decide which ones to play.
DH doesn't care what songs in fact he doesn't care about funerals in his words
'Cheapest way to burn me and throw the ashes on the local green'

How did you choose what songs.

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I've recently been through arranging a funeral and the music was so hard so it's great that you're doing it yourself in advance. I had to narrow it down to 3 songs: one for everyone coming into the chapel, one for the photo tribute and one for everyone leaving.
On a practical level the first needs to be long enough to get everyone in before it runs out, or work OK on a repeating loop. The second needs to go well with the photo tribute if you're having one. The longer it is the more photos you'll fit in. The last one needs to e positive enough that everyone can get out of the chapel without collapsing in an emotional heap. My relative loved Keane and we used Bedshaped. The photo tribute was to The Scientist by Coldplay and the first piece was a classical one she loved.

Get a list of songs and let others narrow it down. You've done just about as much as you can realistically do.

I’d definitely give a list and let others narrow it down. This is what dp’s dad did, both with music and readings. It was interesting that at least one reading was just an instant ‘no’ from us all, there was nothing wrong with it but it didn’t fit the circumstances. And that’s the thing, you can’t know the circumstances or exactly what people will be feeling in advance.

Tell DH that the funeral is for the people left behind not the person who died. I only realised that after the recent one.