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TW CSA: Feeling very impacted by the Epstein files

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Deepinthoughttonight · 27/02/2026 23:58

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I’ll start this by saying there are some triggering subjects mentioned in this thread relating to childhood sexual abuse.

It’s very strange, I feel both repelled and drawn to information about the Epstein files but I think it’s bringing up a lot of unfinished business for me.

Without going into too much detail, I’m a survivor of CSA and was in the care of a very nasty couple who groomed and abused me. I remember indecent pictures being taken of me, but it’s all quite a blur. During this period, I stayed the night with a family member and refused to go back to them, but I didn’t share why. The couple tried to entice me back over the phone, but I refused. My parents fell out with them and I never saw them again.

I believe I’m impacted on a few levels. Firstly, as is often the case, I shared my abuse years later and nothing could be done due to a lack of evidence. I felt the police and SS almost tried to shift a lot of the responsibility onto me (e.g. “why did you not tell anyone at the time?”). It’s very disheartening to see the protection of abusers in these document. It brings up a shame in me that I can’t quite explain.

I have done a great deal of therapy since my childhood. I have a good understanding of what my body and mind went through and I have processed and healed from much of my traumas. However, throughout the years, I have wondered about the purpose of those indecent pictures. I feel extremely grateful that there was a way out for me, but the idea of images circulating at any point in time, disturbs me. I try to hold this thought very lightly so it doesn’t become consuming, but this is something that’s been more central for me lately.

I know I may never get justice, my family don’t recall much information about them, apparently. Now I feel like I’m living vicariously through the survivors and it’s such a big deal to me that they receive justice. I can only explain it as I believe a part of me will feel like I mattered enough for this not to be dropped or swept under the carpet.

If any other survivors are feeling the same or similar, I hope you’re doing as well as you can.

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PrizedPickledPopcorn · 28/02/2026 08:20

I’m sorry for your experiences, and the feeling that it is unfinished. I have unresolved business from my childhood that at times haunts me- I generally push it into a dark corner and ignore it. That’s good enough, most of the time. However at times I get caught up in ruminating and worrying- and I’ve realised that it’s a symptom of not being well. I have increased a medication and am feeling much better.
For me the resurfacing of and engagement with old worries/trauma is a symptom that I need help rather than the cause of the problem. There will have been a trigger, yes. The solution isn’t rummaging around in the dark unpleasant corners, it’s upping my medication and attending to healthy habits.

Of course that may not be the case for you, but if you find following the Epstein files is becoming a burden you may need to step up your health care arrangements.

I hope you get some sense of peace.💐

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 28/02/2026 08:29

I have no advice but just wanted to say that I'm so very sorry for what happened to you, and for what you must be going through right now because of Epstein. I can totally understand how this would all be very retraumatising.

I sincerely hope that, no matter how long it takes, the survivors will get some kind of justice in the end. As a society, we must not let this remain as unfinished business.

Please take care of yourself. Flowers

Deepinthoughttonight · 28/02/2026 17:52

Thank you both. Your kind words mean a lot ♥️

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