Tips on overcoming resentment towards a child

[Fairlyfairy1]

My child suffered horrific violent bullying by a child for a year. It was so serious the child was suspended as the school could not keep my child safe whilst they attended. Both children are vulnerable though in different ways.

The child left the school and has been given a full scholarship to one of the top independent schools in the country through a small niche scheme that supports their particular vulnerability.

I’m trying so hard to be reasonable but it’s so so hard to hear through others how well they are doing and the opportunities they have whilst my child is still struggling due to the abuse they suffered.

I know that I am completely unreasonable as it’s a child for goodness sake but I just can’t get past the unfairness of it. Any suggestions anyone please?

I think you have to turn it around and think that your child whilst being the victim has has been recognised and supported.

The other child is living this life,which does almost feel like a reward but hopefully it will make them a better person but ultimately the behaviour of the child will stick with him, it’s potentially a quirk of his nature and your child is better off personally in that their lifestyle isn’t because of their bad actions.

Its a comparable thing to say that the boys who murdered Jamie Bulger, lived after that a life that otherwise would have been denied to them by having careers whilst in detention, having access to good education and the holidays and simple routine that they didn’t have in their parental homes, as far as I understand one of the boys lives a quiet life yet the other went on to reoffend.