I am a single parent. My ex sees our sons in school hols and that’s the extent of his involvement. It’s all on me.
They are 16, 15, 15. Outwardly polite and well behaved to other people, but same as their Dad, ASD - Asperger’s type and a good splash of demand avoidance. They are massive, eat tons and tons, whiff a bit unless prompted and loathe change.
Im in the trenches with them all at the moment. Hormones, boundaries, that sort of thing. My weapon of choice is the router, which is currently in the boot of my sister’s car. This is after a series of rows with the younger two, who have separately insulted me in every possible way this week, whilst simultaneously trying to tap me up for cash and lifts.
They also spot when one has kicked off, and the others will too - like fighting against a common enemy!
im so tired of fighting. If you have come out of the other side of this, tell me what your best tips are! The disrespect is awful, I hate it. But in other ways they’re good, do a lot of their own care/laundry/cooking and get themselves to school. But everything is a battle. Do I just have to keep going until their brains click out of arsehole mode or is there another way?
All advice gratefully received!