Any positive stories of life suddenly changing for the better?

[Whatthefuuck]

Anyone fancy sharing any uplifting stories of being in a dark place and life getting better? I’m going through a really tough time at the moment after the brutal breakdown of my marriage. Realistically I know I won’t feel like crap forever but right now it feels endless. I feel like I’ve lost my purpose, my identity, don’t know who I am…

I’m 38 now. Ideally I’d love some stories along the lines of… ‘Was miserable at 38….Met my soulmate at 39, got a promotion at 40, won the lottery at 41, couldn’t be happier’ That type of stuff 😂 I just need to know that life can be good again.

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I picked the kids up from football…. Always so hard to see ex drive away to his new house and new life that doesn’t involve me. I think another thing that’s added a later of difficulty is that he initially moved in with a friend so seeing the children was more difficult. He’d take them out for tea or come see them here, take them out for the day etc. He bought a flat in January which I think has contributed to these feelings of finality. He obviously now wants to have them to stay some weekends etc (which I of course encourage) but it’s definitely unsettled them. They’re struggling being away from home.
It’s almost unfathomable to me that this man who I married, who’s watched me give birth 3 times, who knows every single thing about me now lives in a flat I’ve never seen? Like I don’t know what his bedroom looks like?! Silly I know but my son mentioned something today that they’d been doing some painting and it occurred to me I don’t know anything about this new life. Of the man I shared everything with.

However, I’ve got my babies home. Roast dinner pending. Bought myself a bottle of wine. Have got the radio on. Fake it till you make it right? I can’t lie though, it all feels hollow right now x

Keep going with it @Whatthefuuck. You're running the gauntlet now. It's hard now, I don't think anyone would say that it isn't. The roast sounds good :) I need to make a slaw (to use up some red cabbage) and a spicy veg soup (to use up some swede). I think we'll have some chicken in wraps with the slaw for tonight. I want roast though...

Midweek check in! How are you doing OP? Hope the week has been smooth so far.

All good with me/my DC here in "sunny" Kent. Youngest has just left for school, eldest is upstairs (his shift starts at 11:30). I'm working a late shift today, so will do some bits about the house and then head off for my shift. I'll take motorbike as it'll be easier for parking. The DCats are being little sods, but I love them :) I'm considering whether to get up and out now and do a quick supermarket run for basics like eggs/milk. Still on a determined run to get food used up!!

In other news, my lovely coffee machine is in for servicing/repair and I miss it: I bought a secondhand machine in Nov/Dec and it won't do the descaling, hence me getting it looked at. It'll cost £230 to get it sorted, but when I checked online to see cost of a an equivalent model, the prices varied between £900 and £1500!! So, I def want to keep hold of this one if I can! Both my son and I are coffee drinkers, so it won't take long for the machine to give us our money's worth (compared with buying in coffee from a coffee shop).

All very boring, and probably sounding to everyone like I live a sad/boring life. Actually though, I'm celebrating that and all the simple stuff: peace, quiet, no drama, the sound of the birds in the garden, the ability to go to sleep at night not worrying about the antics of XH, the fact I can see a bit of blue sky. All of that is priceless :)