Our lovely mum is 90 and has was diagnosed with dementia last year. She is cared for by my two sisters and I and we have 3 hours paid care each week. She lives in her own home but needs lots of daily help with everything. We take her out as often as possible.
Over the past few months, her continence has declined and she is having many accidents daily. We have seen the continence nurse who suggested much bigger and thicker pads, and a regular timetable for going to the toilet. We have tried both of these things and when we are there it’s relatively OK but she can’t manage when by herself and has a huge amount of wet clothes to be washed daily. She is also reluctant to be ‘advised’ to go to the toilet too - her way of trying to be independent. It makes taking her to her regular groups, and even coming out to our houses much more difficult than it’s ever been. Regular showers are also a problem and she smells on some days.
I think it would be worth trying pull ups but am at a loss about where to start to look for suitable ones and also who would pay as her Attends pads are presently paid for. I’d be most grateful to any wise mumsnetters who know more to advise me. Thank you.