Mediation help.

[fireworksandflowers]

My ex and I have little to no communication. The thought of having to ever message him fills me with dread. I’ve booked an appointment with mediation next month. What can I expect? What things should I think about before going? What do you wish you’d done. Any advice welcome.

If you’re talking about divorce mediation, have a good think before you go in about what you actually want. Don’t be too accommodating, and never believe mediation is about fairness, it’s about a result.

for finances gather the information first. We were told this was not necessary .. unbelievably the mediator wanted us to go through figures on a flip chart. Mediation is several hundreds a session and the more they can draw it out the better for them.

my ex told them that he was leaving his well paid police job, they took that as tr,uth with no evidence!

in my case I agreed much less than was fair just to get it over with. After we left my EX phoned to cancel the agreement.

Thanks for the reply. Should have added its family mediation.

our current situation I believe is all around his work and his wants. But rocking the boat will end in lots of abuse so I’m hoping mediation will hopefully get a result more in my favour.