My mother has always been abusive. I never told anyone I put up with it and suffered greatly. I still have therapy.
In recent years she has been in very poor health. I went NC at the time of her initial diagnosis as she had been particularly nasty to me. She had made awful allegations telling people I was abusive to her and that she was scared of me and my violence which isn’t true at all, as a teenager I used to fight back when she attacked me but she portrayed these incidents without adding the bits where she starting the attacks on me and I was trying to get her off or defend myself .
She is very manipulative and likes to have a good public image. She was regularly calling me and very nasty so I just ignored her calls. Before Xmas she kept persisting calling over and over late one evening. I assumed she as going to be nasty so I kept cancelling and then turned my phone off .
The next day my sister came round to have a go at me as she had had a fall and was in hospital and she had been trying to get help as I live nearest. I told her she knew I’d been NC for a while and that’s why I ignored the calls and turned phone off.
A couple of days later I saw a friend in a cafe and she had a go at me saying how terrible I was for ignoring my mum who was cold and left on the floor after a fall for hours.
A week later I had calls again from my mother one evening. I ignored it again. 2 hours later an angry message from my sister. Apparently she had called me as was waiting outside the hospital having been discharged and waiting in the cold for someone to collect her. I said there’s no way I would have been doing that and she knows it so this is just manipulation and also my sister should have been checking in with nursing staff and would have then known the discharge day/time?
Various other family members had a go and in the end I sent the same message that I had a terrible childhood that I’m NC and it’s reasonable for me to not be involved. I didn’t deliberately leave her injured I didn’t know.
They won’t even speak to me. Except my aunt who says it’s not fair that I’m not pulling my weight. I’ve now got a different number so nobody will be able to call or message as I’ve had enough.
So family and friends think I’m Violent abusive and have left her after a fall and in the cold at hospital. It’s not remotely the case at all. I feel so isolated now.