When to leave 16 year old in the house alone…

[HannahMarin]

Well not alone, alone. Alone with her boyfriend.

Nice kid, know his parents, both very awkward so not overly worried about ‘things’ happening but also not naive that they are both 16!

Been together a while & friends prior to that.

Daughters very open & I know they haven’t kissed yet.

He comes round when we’re home & allow them in the bedroom, watching films.

Wondering if I’m being a bit over the top and it’s a ‘right of passage’ as I keep seeing on Mumsnet 🤣

Any advise appreciated

16 YOs who call themselves boyfriend & girlfriend and have been together a while haven’t kissed yet? Sure

Not unless you want to joing Gransnet any time soon! Do you remember being 16 because I do?!

Door wide open hopefully?

Talk to DD about contraception. Buy a box of Durex and go out. If they want to have sex they will - better safe in your house than in the park. (Yes, they do)

I know they haven’t kissed yet

This seems highly unlikely.

Sureeee

I don’t think it is at all. Not these days. Teenage girls have much stronger boundaries and awareness of their worth nowadays. I have two dds similar ages, as do my friends, and they don’t do things to be cool quite to the extent that I did 50 years ago. Of course if they want to they will, but if they don’t, they won’t. And good for them.

My dc (16) has been dating someone for ages and they haven’t kissed. I know they’re not lying because a) they know I’d be totally fine with it if they had kissed or even if they were choosing, consensually, to have sex, so there’s be no reason to lie and b) they’re incredibly open about, well, everything. Not all 16 year olds are sexual beings yet. Personally OP I think it’s fine to leave them alone.

Do you have a good relationship with your daughter? Have you spoken to her about relationships, safe sex and consent? If so, I think you can leave them alone in the house sometimes. Let's face it, if they're going to have sex, they'll find somewhere to do it!

In the day or overnight? I’ve never thought about this in the day my DC have had friends over including girl friends etc. Overnight is different

Yes just in the day. Or early evening if we were out but coming home.

They definitely haven’t kissed. She has had her first kiss, but not with said boy.

she’s VERY open. Tells me everything and we have spoke about safe sex, consent etc.

She has good boundaries and I know she feels awkward about kissing / sex

I just wondered what the general consensus was about leaving them home alone.

With 16yos I wouldn’t be hanging about the house to supervise them 🤷‍♀️ surely then if he’s over you’re under house arrest?!

If they’re going to have sex they’ll have sex, you just need to make sure your dd has contraception sorted.

I wouldn’t be hanging around the house on the off chance my 16 yo wants to have sex, it’s a bit weird 🙈😂