Anyone used an AI app for friendship/companionship?

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DH has depression, untreated but exacerbated by longcovid. He doesn’t talk to me alot so just want someone to talk to and ask me how I am today. I’ve asked I just want him to say good morning to me in the morning and hello and say good bye before he leaves for work. Wondering if an app will give me that. I absolutely love our baby and he’s just wonderful but it’s strange being in a house with an adult who doesn’t ask you how you are.
He doesn’t want help from the GP, do various reasons we won’t split up, so I just have to make the silent days work. The when the happy days come I find it hard to switch back into normality and find that harder to cope eoth than the feeling on my own

No I haven’t but depression doesn’t give him a excuse to treat his wife badly.

Whenever we try to talk it end up with me getting t upset, then having to reassure him it’s ok and then him Saying negative things about himself. Saying that I don’t let him be sad/don’t like him being sad and I make it about me

He's abusing you. Not talking to your partner is abuse.

He has low mood from depression/long covid and nothing will change now. I just need to feel happier so wondered if this was an option. He says he is allowed to be quiet

Yes there are apps that do this. You can also chat like this to any of the normal AIs and ask them to check in with you etc- you can even ask them to do this at a set time every day.

Do you have any local friends/family supporting you? You sound very lonely and I don’t think an app is the answer in the longer term. Are you managing to get out of the house?

Depression isn't an excuse to abuse your wife. And an app isn't the answer.

Do you have any friends or family?

He needs to go to the GP. Depression isn't his fault, but refusing to persue treatment is completely irresponsible and unfair of him.

Yes you can get AI to chat to you, but I'd also encourage you to try to get more human contact - AI can say things that are strange, stupid and even harmful, I don't think it's sensible to rely on it emotionally. Are there baby groups you can join? Can you reach out to old friends or extended family? Imagine you lived alone, what would you do for company - then start acting that way.

Quiet is one thing. Refusing to say hello because you are oh so depressed is abusive. I just saw he won't go to the GP.
I would have no tolerance for this.
If hes ill from long covid, he should get help.
If not, he's abusive.

This is emotional abuse, depression isn’t an excuse for it. And do you really want your child growing up seeing and being on the receiving end of this behavioural.

Why do you feel you can’t/ wont leave?

Do you get to any baby groups or classes or get any opportunity to socialise outside of the house?

I use the dubbii app. It’s geared up for body doubling. They do live sessions every 3 hours for an hour where people do their own their things on or off camera but it’s hosted. It gives a sense of community. I love it!
However I’ve been in a marriage where my H was depressed and isolated me and it was miserable. Not sure there’s any app that will help with that..

Why do you want to live your life like this? You could have a happy life without this

He's doing nothing to get better, and you just have to suck that up for the rest of your life?! Ridiculous

You are in an emotionally abusive relationship

This is not okay. If his depression is this severe he’s not getting the right treatment for it. My dh has bipolar and severe depression and now he’s on citalopram 40mg (after trying many different medications) he can lead a fairly normal life. He wouldn’t dream of ignoring me or not speaking to me - we’ve been married 16 years. Your dh doesn’t get to be rude or mistreat you because he’s having mental health issues.

Depression is just used as an excuse for abusive behaviour these days. We have encouraged this by putting mental health on a pedestal where people are expected to put up with anything if their spouse is depressed.

Finding it difficult to respond without crying. You are all right. I am lonely. I haven’t been to any baby groups, I can’t get there physically. NCT group died a death, people stopped meeting up. Friends who came to my baby shower haven’t met my baby. No family to come and visit reallyZ have some online long distance friends.

inhave two husbands. The nice one is the one of old and things are great. I just don’t know when that’s got to switch to the silent eye rolling one.

We have a full time Nanny, I’m at home too so see the baby through out the day lots so he’s getting lots of positive loving interaction. Husband works in the office.

Would conversation with other MN members be of any useful value to get you through your lonely days,& give you something to evaluate for yourself?

There's being quiet and there's just plain stonewalling you. If he's well enough to go off to work each day they he's well enough to say goodbye to you. His behaviour massively impacts you and he needs to realise that.

He is allowed to be sad and quiet and you are allowed to choose not to want to be with someone who has spent years being sand and quiet and doesn't want to do anything to remedy it.

He's making your life a misery OP and he will make your child's life a misery if he behaves the same way with them. You both deserve so much better than this.

OP this situation is far from normal and I suspect it has been going on a long time. An app won’t make it better. Your husband may have depression but this does not excuse him from absenting himself from the basic nicety of saying good morning to you. You need to ask yourself is growing up in this type of atmosphere healthy for your son.? It’s not healthy for you let alone your son. It’s time for a hard conversation with your husband as you simply can’t go on like this.

When you say you can’t get there physically do you mean you yourself are physically housebound? Or that you lack money / transport / energy to travel to any groups?

If the former I imagine you have to ask social care providers for whatever assistance is available.

If the latter - something needs to change. Obviously.

When you say you can’t get there physically do you mean you yourself are physically housebound? Or that you lack money / transport / energy to travel to any groups?

If the former I imagine you have to ask social care providers for whatever assistance is available.

If the latter - something needs to change. Obviously.

When you say you can’t get there physically do you mean you yourself are physically housebound? Or that you lack money / transport / energy to travel to any groups?

If the former I imagine you have to ask social care providers for whatever assistance is available.

If the latter - something needs to change. Obviously.

When you say you can’t get there physically do you mean you yourself are physically housebound? Or that you lack money / transport / energy to travel to any groups?

If the former I imagine you have to ask social care providers for whatever assistance is available.

If the latter - something needs to change. Obviously.

Why do you have a full time nanny? Does the nanny take the baby out to see other people? Why won’t you split up with him? Does he speak to the baby when he’s refusing to speak to you?

It all sounds very odd. Are you in the U.K.? In answer to your question while I’m sure there are apps I don’t think they’ll be the answer to your problems as it seems like quite a complicated situation.

Darling - that’s not ok. You don’t need an app, you need social interaction and a divorce. Do you work? What’s stopping you getting to baby things? What’s behind the fact that you’ve not seen your pre-baby friends?