How do you do it??

[Jannnna89]

I have 2 kids. 4yo and 2yo. 2 years apart exactly. I have struggled since I gave birth 2 years ago.

Constantly feel like a bad mum. Constantly worry I'm ruining my kids childhood by being so busy and feel like my hands are so full. I am mainly alone , DH works away, is back Friday afternoon leaving after bedtime Sunday. Meaning housework is mainly all down to me, I am part time and the other week days kids are in nursery.

I always wanted 3 initially. My heart still craves a 3rd. I'm from a small family would've loved another sibling growing up etc. Me and DH are fortunate to be comfortable, we could probably do with getting a bigger house but if we stuck at 2 we could stay here and be mortgage free by the time I'm 45 (I'm 27 now)

The thing stopping me is wondering how do you cope?

I don't have to make any decisions now. But parents of 3, how do you do it?

I did it by having two parents at home.

Obviously doing it all yourself makes things harder.

I was also much more relaxed with dc3, who just fitted in with whatever we were doing with the other 2.

I didn’t, kept with 2 and concentrated on making their lives enjoyable. Worked out well so far and with promotions and then bigger house to clean I’m glad we stayed with 2, I’m tired enough as it is!

I have 25 months between my two. They are 7 and 5.
I think I'll be broody til I die. But we couldn't manage a third. So we didn't have one. As much as I wanted it I couldn't see how we'd manage it

We waited 5 years then had a third! She’s a wonderful addition to our lives but it’s a lot of work having a third