me And my friend had 17+ years of friendship. We was extremely close. I was like family. When we found out she was pregnant I was so excited I couldn’t wait for a new member to join us. I was there all through pregnancy did anything for her helped any way I could and during the birth. Since she’s had her daughter things have been different I’m not as included with everything as I once was which I totally understand. She’s is a first time mum I have 2 children primary school age so I know with a new born she is adjusting to this new life and it can be stressful so I haven’t said how I’m feeling pushed out as I get it. My friend has ocd and since having her daughter it’s got worse. She has rules of visiting. No visits after 6pm no more than 1 visitor. I am smoker she requested I wash my hair my body clean clothes etc before I visit. And strictly no smoking after I wash my hair. I did as she asked when I was visiting. After a few weeks we had a “bicker” she asks why I don’t nip over anymore, I explained I have 2 children im single, work full time and have a dog to walk my day is now where near done at 6pm and I haven’t got time to wash hair etc during the day. So I said I’m going to see her and her daughter on my days off. But with the 1 person at a time thing coz she gets overwhelmed with being with more than one person at a time that proved difficult too as she most always had a visitor. I’ve said I’d go baby classes with her to spend time she said that would be weird as I don’t have a baby of my own. We finally got a day out last week and she had a long coat on and I made a remark it was blowing in the wind and it looked like Severus snapes cloak out of Harry Potter. We got into a massive argument after that she said I bring her down she is wearing the long coat as she is self conscious at the minute and I’ve made other remarks like this and she doesn’t need friends who bring her down. I said that’s the relationship we have she makes comments to me too as we always have I don’t take it to heart and she never used to and again she complained I don’t go over as much. I said it’s not as easy now as it was to come and see you before. She started to proper scream at me in the car and she ended it get the fuck out my car so I shouted don’t worry I’m going. She rang me then accusing me of bullying her she doesn’t want to be friends anymore and how dare I shout infront of the baby I wish I didn’t but she was screaming at me and the last 3 times previous I’d seen her she’s shouted at me. I feel like she takes her anger and worries out on me as she doesn’t have other friends as close as we was. Now She has blocked me on everything. Am I a terrible friend or have been. Could I do more or go about things differently am I bullying her? I don’t know what I can do