They were very young (20 and 21) and had been together for 18 months when his GF contacted me to say she wouldn't be coming on a planned weekend away because he had been "talking to" someone else.
I don't really know what that means but I gather in young people speak it's more than having a chat with an aqauintance. Actually unfaithful? I don't know.
All I got from DS at the time was that they'd split up but he was fine. He did indeed seem fine, with no visible signs that he was in the least bit upset.
If there was someone else, I don't think it came to anyhting, as he didn't leave the house much apart from work for the next few months.
Anyway, six month later they were back together and six months after that they've renting a home together and talking about buying somewhere.
I'd always thought I'd help with a first house purchase. There was some life insurance when his dad died, which although technically belongs to me, I've always considered to be for DC at an appropriate time.
However, although I like the GF, I'm not very confident in this relationship. Mainly because I don't know how she trusts him again, which will have an impact their relationship. Also once people start that breaking up/getting back together cycle it never seems to work out long term.
I don't know any real details, and don't want to. I've talked to DS generally about the harm dishonesty and secrets do in a relationship, and he's made suitable noises of agreement. He says he did something stupid (but not what it was) and has learnt his lesson, which I hope is true, but that doesn't make the hurt she felt go away.
But, the only bit that is my business is whether I give them (him?) some money to help with the house purchase. WWYD?