Wedding gift thank you

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Wondering what others have experienced recently when sending young couples wedding gifts?
I got married over 25 years ago and aware things have changed, but I sent an individual thank you card to everyone who gave us a gift whether they came to our wedding or not.

Last autumn I sent 2 wedding gifts, one to the daughter of a family friend who had invited us to the wedding but I couldn’t go. The other was to my cousin’s son, I wasn’t invited to the wedding. I know (from their mothers) both received the gifts but I have never heard anything from them. Both couples are mid 20s. I know it won’t be thank you cards anymore but I thought the couples would send an email or WhatsApp thank you?
I heard from a relative who’d been at 1 of the weddings that there was a generic thank you to everyone attending for making their day special and for the generous gifts.

My late teens/early 20s kids often get money transferred to their account or an e-gift card from relatives for their birthday. They straight away send a thank you message. I thought everyone did that but maybe it’s just us!

Interested in other people’s experiences, if this is normal now?

Do either couple have a way to contact you? It sounds like you don't actually know either of them very well so they probably don't have a way to get in touch to say thank you apart from through a message from their mother's?

Anecdotally I’ve had a handwritten thank you card in the post for all but two wedding gifts I’ve given in my twenties and thirties (similar age brides and grooms). One of the other couple sent a WhatsApp and only got nothing from one wedding.

I saw a lot of both of them from age 0-18 but probably not very much over last few years. They have contact details or a very easy way to get them

We were sent a link to a wedding registry to choose gifts. Part of my family put money in to buy gift. One DS got one separately. We never received a thank you. They had our email as this is how the invite was sent. Maybe people don't think to send a thank you anymore. Mine are in their 20s and still send thank you cards to relatives.

Wow, so they took the time to send gift requests but not even a quick thank you 😬 I do think that’s pretty rude.

It’s nice to hear that you’ve raised children who still value manners in their twenties, so it’s not all bad 😅

I remember getting grief over delayed thank you cards. No one in my family bothered but they all got one. I couldn’t care less if I got one or not.

Mixed experiences then.
I guess I was brought up that it was rude to get a gift and not say thank you!

I got married last year and sent thank you cards for all the gifts we received - I am 49 though so maybe different in younger generation

I think it’s so rude not to thank people individually. Card, call or even a quick text.
I’m still bearing a grudge towards a close family member who had a massive very expensive wedding. They split up two weeks later but still cashed the £100 cheque we gave and we’re still waiting for a thank you 15 years later.

Oh my, they went ahead and cashed the cheque anyway!