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Alzheimers and family issues

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sj798 · 13/02/2026 19:19

Can anyone help me with this? Normal family until dad's death 5 years ago. Then it all fell apart. I am eldest and had good relationship with mum. There was no fall out of arguments but since the death, my 2 adult siblings have increasingly isolated my elderly mum from rest of family. She has recently been diagnosed with alzheimers and it is fast onset. She is only allowed to have me in the house on a Sunday morning, when 1 of them will leave front door open and go back to bed. Social worker involved and it is all a total mess. As this awful disease takes hold, mum can no longer make phone calls and sometimes I suspect my sisters unplug the phone so I cant talk to her. This seems to be the case this evening. I cant even begin to explain how distressing this is. Im thinking if it would be worth getting a solicitor's letter to both sisters asking what their plan is as we move into unknown times with my mum. Am I wasting my time? Is there any other legal way I can try to plan a way forward? Please dont suggest I talk to them. They ignore any attempts i have tried. Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Pleae be kind.

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limetrees32 · 13/02/2026 19:22

Wow .I can only think that the way forward is to tackle whatever is causing your siblings behaviour.
I presume SS are involved because you've raised a safeguarding concern.

sj798 · 13/02/2026 19:25

Yes, raised safe guarding concerns. Social worker visited and 1 sister sat in room with her so mum was very vague in her answers to social worker. Whole thing is an absolute nightmare and it is very hard to see a way forward. Biggest worry is how I can continue to see my mum. This will obviously get harder if she is unable to speak for herself.

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