Will I be arrested?

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Court ordered contact, ND child, neglectful/emotionally abusive NRP, child will not go, won't get dressed, won't leave the house, point blank refuses to go, has a meltdown and then gets physically ill for days afterwards when I try and force contact.

I've been told if I can't get dc to go I'll be in contempt.

I cannot get dc to go at all.

Am I going to be arrested?

Surely the contact order needs to change so maybe the child is picked up by the NRP straight from school or an activity instead?

NRP refuses to pick up from any activities due to times, last time he picked up from school the child ran away back to my house and refused to go and has said if that happened again they will make themselves sick in the afternoon so they don't have to go with him.

It's actually a nightmare he's pushing for contact on his terms and not considering our child at all.

Child has just turned 8.

Court has said I'm going to be held in contempt if I don't force this, but, aside from physically dragging my child and physically handing over and walking away when child is having a meltdown that NRP can't deal with I don't kno what to do.

NRP would have to apply for enforcement then you'd have to answer why child hasn't gone to contact. No, you will not be arrested.

Am I allowed to video or record to show the court what I'm dealing with?

If NRP goes for an enforcement order you'd have to ask the court for permission to show a video/recording. They might well hold a very dim view though of you filming your distressed child

I really don't want to record my child, but I'm unsure how to prove what I'm dealing with.

I've had 2 neutral people talk to my child without me there and child says they absolutely do not want to see their dad and listed the reasons why. Which I have evidence of.

I've offered NRP various ways to ease into seeing child that he refuses as he wants it all on his terms.

I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall here.

The person dealing with our case has made it clear that child being ND will not be taken into account as they should just do as they are told.

Let his father apply for the enforcement order. Dont beat yoirself up just let the pos go through the process.

When he was supposed to be seeing child he just didn't come or showed up late half the time anyway.

I just don't really wish to be arrested, or, worse still, court allows him to be RP of our child. He genuinely couldn't cope. I was in hospital once and child didn't get taken to school, wasn't washed or changed and was sick for days afterwards.

He literally told me he's going to harrass me through the courts so he will likely take it as far as he can, his Mum is paying the legal bills.

If he is autistic you need a professional with good understanding of autism. I have an autistic child and work with Autistic people. People who lack knowledge and understanding (which unfortunately includes a lot of people in children's services) think with good parenting you can make a child do anything, but that is not the case with autism. You need a professional fighting your corner who can put a statement to the judge about how the situation can be best managed.

Skumbag! Yes abusive men use the court system to harass their ex partners, not about the kids at all. Womans hour which is on radio 4 on the mornings covers conract issues regularly.

Can NRP pick dc up from school and can school support with this?

Sounds like it needs to get heard in Court. Cafcass need to speak to your DC, explain why they don’t want to go. My friend’s DC had a very strong opinion regarding not seeing a parent and has not done so. They were 4 at the time.