40th birthday for my partner next week

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Hi all,

so it’s my partners 40th next week and on the actual day he’s spending it me spa day and brunch and collecting his present which he bought himself (has one from me also) and going for a meal in the evening with our two kids 6 & 4yrs old.

then on the weekend he’s spending a day out with his best mates.

I really wanted to throw a big meal/party but with us all having little ones and babysitting i thought it would be an issue so I planned it this way.

he’s not a big party person and has told me several times he really dosnt fuss about his birthday.

should I maybe invite all my family to the meal and his parents ? He’s an only child or shall I keep it how it is now ?

ahhh I’m confused I wanted to make it special also his present might not arrive on the actual day but a day or two later grrrrr

I think you need to ask him if he wants his parents there too for the dinner, and possibly yours but that's less important.

Not getting a present from you on the day is a bit shit though. I think that would have upset me. It's not like the birthday was a surprise. Is there anything else you can get him?

I got him a real special present he’s going to love it, I’m constantly checking the tracking hoping it will arrive !

I’m going to get him some small bits and bobs to open and I’ve got 40 balloons with photos all attached to the bottom so will have it all special in the morning.

i told him about it parents and he said let’s just go as a family of 4 I even tried to go alone with him but he wants to spend the day with the kids (they will be at school in the day)

Well then I think ith as been planned the way he wants it to. Or do you think he actually want it to be a bigger deal than he lets on and that he is expecting some kind of surprise element?

i told him about it parents and he said let’s just go as a family of 4 I even tried to go alone with him but he wants to spend the day with the kids (they will be at school in the day)

So why are you asking if you should invite all your family to the meal and his parents??

Honestly, this is about him and he's told you what he wants.

Yh im thinking he would have probable liked a nice meal out and that was the original plan but then his mates said they wanted to spend a day with him
and make it special so i thought ok then lets go with that, and now im thinking oh crap but maybe that’s just me as I would want something a little different

He's told you what he wants. Listen to him.

If you want to organise a big party and invite everyone you know, do that for your birthday.