How do you talk to kids about what's on the news (atm, but also just generally)

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I have an extremely inquisitive, bright and hard-to-fob-off 8yo with ears like a bat and eyes everywhere. I usually try to answer all his many many many questions as truthfully as I can in an age-appropriate manner but I'm struggling with Epstein.

I have explained the basics along the lines of 'very rich and famous man did bad things, was put in prison, died, has now turned out that lots of other rich and famous people may have also have been involved or at the very least known he was up to said bad things', but was stumped when asked for details of his crimes. I have now distracted or derailed from this question four times, and the last time he asked we got as far as 'keeping people prisoner on an island who didn't want to be there'. Which obviously prompted 'but why?' which I mercifully ran out of time to have to come up with an answer to.

However, on the way to school this morning it became clear that he has decided that Epstein was obviously running a cannabis factory (he is unfortunately vaguely aware of cannabis farms using victims of modern slavery as workers, thanks to DH's job and aforementioned ears like a bat 🤦🏻‍♀️). He was mostly expounding on this theory so I got away with making non-committal listening noises, but I know we'll end up coming back to it because once he gets fixated on something like this it takes him weeks to move on.

Directly telling him he's too young or something isn't appropriate for him to know tends to prolong the fixation. And saying 'I don't know/ am not sure' also no longer works as he then either asks me to look it up, or if I 'can't' goes on to ask Daddy/ Granny/ his teacher/ his football coach/ his friend across the road's parents until someone is sufficiently caught off guard to give him an answer he thinks is acceptable.

I'm not sure where to go from here as despite his nosiness and generally coming across as a mini adult in conversation, he is still little, fairly sensitive and quite easily scared. He came down the other evening while his older brother and I were watching Murder on the Orient Express and got so upset by the background kidnapping plot (that he understood in about five minutes of half-listening to tricky-to-follow dialogue) that he slept with the lights on that night and has now set up a tripwire across his bedroom door (which nearly killed me when I went to tuck him in last night). I think if he understood much more than he does now about it all he would really struggle.

How do other parents handle things like this?

The week Junior - age appropriate news content might help or BBC https://www.bbc.co.uk/newsround.

DS could ask awkward questions - how I answered depended on context - news was often on in background in mornings so world was always there.

My Dmum and MIL often thought the DC more sensitive than they were - trying to hide that we ate animals and fish and being shocked kids knew that. Clearly some kids worry and get upset more than others - but there was some projection on to my DC from realtives thinking they should be uspet or were when mostly it was background noise to them.

I have a very anxious DD and The Week Junior was great for her. Clear and non-alarming.

The tripwire made me laugh and wince at the same time, that's such a specific 8 year old response.

No real wisdom on the Epstein question specifically, that's a genuinely hard one to pitch right. But for what it's worth, it sounds like you're already doing the actual hard part correctly — not lying and giving him just enough to feel respected without the full weight of it.
Kids that age often want the acknowledgment more than the detail, it's the "I can tell this is real and you're not fobbing me off" that settles them, not necessarily a complete answer.

Disclosure since it's relevant: I challenged myself to build a kids news app(KuryoNews), as a complete amateur, partly because of this exact problem. My daughter kept reaching for my phone to read BBC news notifications. It won't help with Epstein conversations atm, but it might help with fewer ambush topics. Not pitching it hard, just mentioning it exists in case it's useful and would genuinely appreciate your feedback if you ever use it!

I was also coming on to recommend The Week Junior and Newsround as a PP did. They're both so good at explaining things in an age appropriate way. If he hears it direct from a news source he'll hopefully be more content that he's had a full answer.

Outside of that is try and distract by introducing another news story/new piece of information and hoping that captures his imagination sufficiently to shift his focus.

I think I'd have gone with "he hurt some women and girls" and if asked how then "No one is really sure exactly what happened yet" if asked why then "Some people do bad things to other people. No one really knows what's in their minds to make them do that"
Then I'd end with reassurance that he was safe because the adults in his life were looking after him etc.

I would also go with as poster above says “he was hurting women and girls but fortunately he got caught” and “because he was rich he had lots of rich friends and a lot of them are very embarrassed now and some of them may have done bad things too”

So you resurrected a zombie to share an AI written post spamming your app?
Bad job that man.

Fair enough on resurrecting a zombie. And yes, I am promoting a personal project I care about. I care about it enough to find threads where it might be relevant. What's wrong with that? Got a full-time job that has nothing to do with this, I do it evenings and weekends because I think it matters, not because anyone's paying me to post here. No hard feelings either way.