How much money would you send your friend for their 30th birthday?

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I’ve got 2 kids and I’m a little skint at the moment but she’s a close friend and it’s her 30th. I was meant to go out with her tonight with her other friends too, but I’m poorly So I’m staying in. Xx

Why would you need to send money? A good friend would understand you are not well and not deliberately not going (unless you have a history of being flaky). If you’re skint I would get her a card and a small present for next time you see her.

Nothing, giving adult friends birthday money is odd. That's not a thing is it?

Being happy to accept money from a friend who you presumably know is struggling, equally odd

I usually send a pound for each year, so £30. But if you can't afford that then whatever you can afford. Sure she will be grateful for what you can afford if you're friends.

I think if you had money set aside for tonight and it didn't put you out it would be nice to send £15 for a cocktail on you - or however much they are where you live

But I honestly dont expect gifts from friends - if they cant make i would be gutted byt only because I miss our on their company

So I wouldn't think less of you if you apologies and met for a coffee another day soon to celebrate

I'd take her out for a meal or cafe when you are better or send a gift. Bit weird to be sending money IMO!

You'd be grateful if a friend gave you money?

I'd really quite surprised that adults are giving each other money, unless you're financially strapped why would you want someone to do that?

I've never given or been given money probably since I was 6

I wouldn't expect money from a friend for my birthday. Can you not take her for coffee and cake when you feel better, that's more appropriate imo.

Why not give her a voucher for afternoon tea?

Money is for kids' birthdays, not adults. Get her a card and a small present or take her out for a drink when you're feeling better.

Mumsnet loves an afternoon tea voucher 😂,

I don't know about where you live but round my way that is not in the price range of someone who's a bit skint and it's one of those gifts that involves someone else spending money to accompany the birthday person. Or are you suggesting she pays for two people😮

Why not go the whole hog and get her a spa day 😂

Nothing….she’s your mate….she’s not family….why would you buy her a gift …different if she’s paid for you to attend an event and paid for your meal and drink….I would then buy a token gift….but nothing in Your circumstances

I wouldn't send her any money, I think that is a bit odd for an adult friend's gift. I would take her out for a coffee/beer when I was better again.

I don’t really give money for adults but do buy vouchers (semantics? perhaps!) When I turned 30 I received several vouchers for £100 for some local beauty places for massages/facials etc. ended up discovering a better masseuse that way and I’ve been going there ever since!

I wouldn’t give a friend money for a birthday but if it was a close friend, I would buy a lovely, carefully chosen present.

If you can afford £30 then that would be a nice gesture to get a couple of cocktails as you can’t make it out.

I don’t think it’s that odd to give someone money tie a biggish birthday - it’s not compulsory obviously but I’d not be offended or weirded out personally.

Very weird to give money to adult friends

Drop round with a bottle of her preferred wine?

I’d do a voucher over money personally and the amount has to be what you can afford.

I usually send a pound for each year, so £30.

Crikey, that must get expensive wfh older relatives!

I wouldn't send money to friends-I'd drop round flowers or a bottle of wine or take the out for lunch another time.

I’d drop her a card & a bottle of wine round when you’re better.

Agree with pp. She isn't your friend because you give her money (I hope!)
She's your friend because you like spending time together and have shared interests.

So giving her money is essentially pointless (and v weird between friends). Take her out when you are better and actually enjoy each other's company.

@LightYearsAgo I am a money giver and receiver. Mainly because I’m incredibly fussy to buy for so it’s easier for everyone.

Op for our 30ths and 40ths we gave the age amount. Maybe bit more for my best friend but if you can’t do that then fine.

Do you not give gifts, be it either money or a gift, to your friend on their birthday?