How do I pull myself together from here?

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I’m not really sure what I’m asking for here. Maybe perspective, maybe practical advice, maybe just to hear from people who’ve been here.

In the last year I’ve had two family bereavements, ongoing uncertainty at work, a parent who is very much not coping well with their grief and an increasing need to step in and support elderly relatives.

On top of that, I’m dealing with endometriosis and a difficult journey TTC.

Individually I know people deal with these things all the time, but all together I feel completely overwhelmed. I’m tense, tearful, disorganised, and feel like I’ve lost my ability to cope or plan anything beyond the next few days. I’m struggling to keep up at work, and feel like I’m waiting for everything to fall apart.

Things don’t look like they’ll improve any time soon, so I guess my question is how do I pull myself together when life feels very messy?

Oh goodness, that's a great amount to deal with

Sometimes life is very unfair.

If a friend told you they had had a very rough time, would you tell them to pull themselves together? I doubt it - most people would advise self-care, self-compassion, rest and time to recover.

Feeling overwhelmed is the natural emotional response when life is overwhelming.

What can you scale back, how can you care for yourself? Comfort is key.