Help please for sensitive child

[ReneeBM]

Wondering if anyone has advice about helping us help my sensitive DGS (is that correct for dear grandson?). He's 8, an only child, and very much 'takes things to heart'. In school he feels boys frequently pick on him/say things that upset him. How can we help him, what to say to him, to help him cope with this?

It's good that he's taking about it to you. Shows he trusts you. You're doing a great job with him. You could try and asking a child specialist for advice. Don't know how you would go about that. Your Doctor? If you think that is not necessary then perhaps you could encourage a hobby or club but you know him best and what he likes and is interested in. The fact that he's taking to you about it is brilliant. I was a very quiet child who kept things and how I was feeling to myself even from my parents

Thank you @Whocares63.He does a few things he enjoys, swimming and tennis, but when he talks about school you can see he finds things difficult. Could I ask what would have helped you to hear if you'd told your parents or anyone?

It would of helped me if my parents told me I am ok who I am not to compare myself to the other more confident children. That it didn't matter if I didn't always get the joke and kids who make fun of me probably are trying to distract others from their own perceived faults

Are other kids picking on him? Because is it worth his parents speaking to the teachers if it upsets him that much or is it more low level.

Doing martial arts has helped my DC’s confidence and ability stand up for themselves. Plus it’s an excellent discipline.

Thank you @Whocares63.That's so helpful, giving reassurance and advice that is meaningful is so much better than saying, don't worry, it'll be alright (which is the best we've been able to manage). Thank you again.

Thank you @HotdogMacaroniCheese some things have been brought to the teacher's attention, but a lot is low level. The advice to do martial arts to help with confidence and stand up for himself sounds a great idea and will speak to his parents about that - thank you!