What to do

[stanners2012]

my daughter who will be 21. Myself and my friend and her 19 year old daughter we have tickets for Harry Styles. my friends daughter is going to see him 6 times. but this is a nice day out for us 4. unbeknown to me. my daughters god father our best friend has got us 4 seats in a box. with his wife ( my best friend) and her daughter as a present fir her 21st. and it is of course the same night I’m due to go with my other friend and daughter. I’m so conflicted. my daughter is over the moon. I can’t take that experience away from her or the kind gesture from her god father. but feel terrible for my friend. I’m thinking of saying we resell our tickets and get another 4 for a different night. my friends daughter may also be getting a special ticket from her uncle for New York as well as her 6 nights here in London. so she’s not hard done by lol. How do I broach this. I lost my very best friend three months ago. My friendships are very important to me.

Can your daughter go in the box with your BF and her daughter and you go with your other friend and her daughter?

If you sell your 4 tickets you may struggle to get any more.

Why don’t you swap, let your friends daughter (the one not in the box) go in the box and you stay with your friend in the stadium seating.

You can still all make a day of it before the show, and maybe you could drinks with the god father/your best friend after.

I have thought about both. Those options. My best friend. Won’t want to be in the box with just the kids. And I’ve suggested to my daughter I go to the stadium seats and meet her after. But she wants me to be in the box. My best friend has just lost her sister who was also my best friend and I know her husband has got this box for my daughters birthday but also as a gift for us because we’ve been through a lot. But I do think my other friend is going to be miffed. I can’t split myself in two. It’s so frustrating I’m going to upset someone.

It sounds like you just want to be in the box & even though you committed to the original plan first you want MN to make you feel better about your decision.

I find it slightly odd your adult friend can’t be a box with teenage girls (1 of them her daughter & 1 of them her God daughter)

You've conveniently added a death, a further best friend, re-emphasised a birthday and added the usual “we’ve been through a lot” - you want to go in the box, be a bad friend and break your original plan, there I’ve given you MN permission

Can the god father swap the box seats for another date? If he booked with a company like seat unique he’d probably have a decent chance of doing so? I don’t think boxes are sold out.

Yes I’m going to ask him