im not sure if this is in my head

[mumof1and3dogs]

so recently I told one of my so called "friends" what was being said about her (that she was basically getting it on with a man in a relationship and shes in a relationship herself) I never said anything about this situation in fact I told them to stop. it clearly wasnt true... well she has had a bit of a past before and cheated on her boyfriend.
she got completely angry with me because im the one who told her? I thought id tell her so she could put an end to the rumour and thinking she would like to know what is being said behind her back.
now everyone seems to be against me... I no she has been running me down and just saying im trying to ruin her relationship. I literally told her what OTHER people was saying...

im in a happy 10 year relationship myself, im also 30 years old, like im over drama I wished I never said anything and let her find out herself. lesson learned on that one!

now I have text one of my closest friends, happy birthday with a lovely little message saying I hope she gets everything she wants and that im glad shes in my life blah blah blah.... I get back "thanks x"

I had also posted to her Facebook she tagged everyone that said happy birthday but didnt tag me.

I walked into the pub the other day and the usual people that would say hello completely blanked me. so I no full well she is slagging me off and making me the bad person. im starting to think its true and shes now trying to turn the attention on to me.

Thats all I'd reply to a birthday message, no matter how overly gushing it was. And being the smug I'm in a relationship for 10 years friend might be putting people off talking to you

I agree with the post above. I'd also recommend not passing on what is being said in the future, keep out of it.

You were gossiping. Firstly involving yourself in gossip about your friend with others to have heard the rumors, then gossiping back to your friend. You couldn't wait to mention here that she has a 'bit of a past' and cheated in a prior relationship, despite it being irrelevant to your Asituation. I don't think you're as over drama as you think you are...gossip, rumours, not being tagged on Facebook, your friend's campaign to turn people against you...you all sound completely immature.

Put yourself if your friends shoes...how did you expect her to react? If the rumour isn't true then she doesn't have to dignify it with a response or set anyone straight. And true or not, there's no scenario in which finding out people are discussing your private life behind your back is going to make someone feel good about themselves. People often say they'd want to know, until it happens to them.

I don't think you set out to anger or upset her, but I do suspect that at least part of your motivation was rooted in wanting to see the fall our from your friend setting people straight.

If something is none of your business, stay out of it.

I think you did the right thing OP, I've done similar to a friend before too. Her reaction doesn't seem right at all she does sounds guilty, step back for a while and leave her to it

If someone tells me someone else has been talking about me I tend to think more along the lines of “why did they think to tell you?”, ie why does someone else think you’ll listen to gossip about me? I’d expect a friend to shut it down, not engage in gossip and then tell me about it so on that basis I’d distance myself from you.

Wow I wouldn't want to talk you made drama, first you were told how do you even know you weren't told by troublemakers, second even if I was told it's none of my business and third you can't be trusted yourself with information wether it's correct or incorrect so yes I can see why the group doesn't want to know you because youve made the drama you claim to hate and don't even know if it's true or not true factually