Adult children, ex never paid child support?

[ClawsandEffect]

If you now have adult children, were divorced while your children were young, and your ex got away without paying child support, have you put it behind you? Are you civil or even friendly to them now, on family occasions?

Asking for a friend. 🙄

My father never paid child maintenance or saw us much when we were little but my mum and him get on now we are adults and regularly speak on the phone! She even helps him with his shopping (physically not financially)

Why would you want to be friendly or civil to someone who wouldn't even support their own kids? Is he offering to give you a big bag of money by way of compensation?
Nah tell him to fk off

Mine paid support.

I still wouldn’t waste my time speaking to him.

My ex husband doesn’t pay - I have 100% custody he barely sees them now and we have 3 young children including a set of twins so you can Imagine the childcare costs alone.
im civil nothing more and dont intend for that to change …ever.
call it parental alienation all you want but I’m also clear to my eldest who is old enough to understand that our financial situation is as a result of their dads decisions and actions and not for want of trying on my part

I'm not saying I want to be. But when you have children, you can't continue hating when you're attending weddings, parties etc when you're both there. It'd be too damaging for the adult children.

My XH didn’t pay, didn’t see my DC and has basically ignored them all their lives since leaving when they were small. Since meeting them as adults he’s now decided he’d like to have them in his life. They don’t want to know. There’s no contact now between us and him except for random messages to DC from him once or twice a year but they don’t know him and have no interest in him. He failed them as kids and none of us are interested in him or his life. Consequences of the choices HE made years ago and kept on making.

My ds is 33. I’ve only attended one event where ex Dh was.

I encounter my ex H a couple of times a year. Too much but I tolerate him. I also look at him and think, 'What the hell was I doing?!' but that's a different story!

Not me but a friend. However, she knew he had a lot of outgoings (he supported his parents and their health) as well as being on a much lower salary. He more than made up for it in terms of being there for the children - he did drop offs, pick ups and pretty much all of the school holidays as well as after school care and weekends that fitted around what suited her. The children spent every night with her but probably 75% or more of their waking hours with him or at school.